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Sara in Millbrae, California

41 months ago

Forgive the lengthy post, but here's the thing: unless you are lucky enough to become a forest ranger or scientist in some remote Antarctic outpost, you are going to *have* to deal with people on a fairly regular basis. If you don't learn some basic coping skills, not only will you be miserable whenever you have to deal with co-workers or clients, but you'll probably be let go after being treated cruelly by some. I wish this were not the case. When I take the Myers-Briggs test, I score around a 98 on introversion, so I am an extreme introvert, and happy to be (when I am left alone). Through a social boot camp of sorts (hanging out in the pub every day) for the past seven years has taught me some guerrilla social skills (how to deflect attention from myself, how to take a compliment, how to hold my own in an argument or just a "discussion", how to greet others in a friendly manner without inviting them to further intimacy). I recommend doing something like this to all of us who would otherwise be perfectly happy to see people once a year when they deliver supplies to our cabin in the woods. Offices are hell. Schools are hell. Retail establishments are hell. We *have* to focus on self-protection and learn to get by in these environments (which includes how to get away from them whenever possible). You will NOT avoid people by doing anything that takes place in an office (accountant, HA! constant stream of people interrupting you). Or a courtroom. Or a university. Even if you work as a "consultant", this means you are forced to meet new people all the time! Sure, you can do work from home sometimes, but is it worth it? And if you are a writer, do you think your book will promote itself? You'll have to get out "there" and sell yourself. I wish I had the perfect answer to our job prayers, but it doesn't exist. We have to adapt to a certain extent.

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lihingmui in Kihei, Hawaii

41 months ago

You have a lot of options.

But you need to provide more info.

For example:

1. How much do you hate people? Maybe your job requires too much interaction and so you feel like you never want to have to talk to another soul ever again. But go on an isolated vacation for a month and maybe you'd feel differently. I don't prefer to work with people, but I still need some human interaction.

2. Do you prefer to work with ideas or things?

3. Do you prefer to work indoors or outdoors?

4. Do you need recognition? Independence? Job Security? to be happy?

5. What does "meaningful work" mean to you?

6. Salary requirements?

7. Do you need to specialize or prefer to be more of a generalist?

Considering reading Nicholas Lore's book The Pathfinder.

Believe it or not, I've met introverted engineers, doctors, lawyers, trade workers, business owners. To give an example of how these variables come into play, the intro or extroverted specialist engineer might enjoy becoming an expert in a specific niche of engineering while the extroverted generalist engineer might end up a sales engineer.

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Diane in San José, Costa Rica

41 months ago

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Ritah in Phelps, Kentucky

41 months ago

Wow, I thought I was among only a few people on this planet that don't like to work around or be around alot of people at all times. In my job, I am CONSTANTLY around people and I feel like people are watching me to get a feel for me (because I'm so quiet) and I'm SO extremely sick of it! I mean, I love my job to death and what I do but it's just that I can't stand the "politics" that go along with having this certain type of job. You always have to "put on a happy face" even when you're not feeling like talking or interacting with others. In my experience, people just think I'm stuck up but, boy, when I get home it's like the total opposite of when I'm at work. Like someone said earlier, I just wish I had some kind of job where I was behind a computer all day doing data entry or something and the fewer people I had to deal with, the better....

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artzstuf in Albany, New York

41 months ago

hear you. I find all jobs have aspects of them that we don't like,even working for your self! I am an artist/jewelry designer/maker/seller. I am very happy 'creating' but sitting around at the flea markets,fairs,fests in the hot sun and heat for hours can get old quick. I bring something with me though to do to pass the time like fix jewelry or make some more,knit,paint and wear head phones. This also makes me stand out amongst my competition,other vendors who might also be selling hand made jewelry!

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ktovbin84 in Dallas, Texas

41 months ago

FloridaMom1026 in Orlando, Florida said: I don't have Aspergers. I am neurotypical. Thanks

I am too! I must be crazy!

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Bob in Ocean Springs, Mississippi

41 months ago

A silent Monk of the Church, or perhaps an engineer. At worst a Hermit. Security guard, very lonely (nights). A guru on a mountaintop or a Scholor professor. A mailman. Independent farmer. Work at a Lighthouse, or get a job in Alaska. However, remember the more isolated you are the more nice and up close folks are. Have you ever heard of how lonely someone is walking in downtown NY?

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denise in San Antonio, Texas

40 months ago

Surgical Technoligist... you will have to go to tech school in most cases.... BUT you work with people who are asleep, and usually in quiet enviorment.... I LOVE IT!

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Violet in Phoenix, Arizona

40 months ago

Hi, I've never posted comments online before, but I also prefer to work alone and keep to myself most of the time. Too bad people have to label you for it....I do have close friends but they "get" me and don't mind if I don't want to socialize for months at a time. Just wanted to say I spend most summers as a fire lookout, and it's GREAT! Just me and my dog and my books and my camera for three to four months. I am stationed, by request, at the most remote tower in my district...there is no road to it, not even a trail so visitors don't come by. Twice lost hunters found their way to me but that is rare. The supply chopper comes every three weeks for a few minutes. Other than than that, solitary bliss! The rest of the year I clean buildings at night. Not glamorous, I know, but I don't mind. I can bring my dog, make my own hours, and be totally alone. Getting into a lookout position takes persistance but it can be done. Just keep applying through the USFS website and call the district manager in the area you want to work in to keep your name in his/her mind. I got in the second summer I applied. If I could do it all year, I would! Good luck to all you other loners out there!

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saraH in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

I feel exactly the same way! So glad to see I am not the only one! I definiately am an introverted person and have been struggling with finding the right job ever since my teenage years. And here I am again, desperately looking for another job, since I have to pay the bills, and the only options out there that are available are call centers, office, and customer service jobs. I am so frustrated. I can't afford to go to school, and my experience is in customer service and office because those were the only jobs I was ever able to get, even though I have a BA. I HATE those jobs so much!! Just thinking that once again I will have to go for something I hate because I need money makes me sick!! I feel stuck in a vicious cycle!! All of the suggestions made in the posts are pretty good, but would require me to go back to school which I can't afford right now. Like the rest of you, I am a young and talented individual that is very capable but totally unappreciated cause Im not outgoing and always happy and talk a lot. And my husband totally doesn't understand that I am an introvert and hate those jobs, all he cares about is that I find something soon, and keeps offering me jobs through his friends which are the office hell jobs!!

I know what would be the perfect job for me, but it is usually volunteer work and VERY difficult to get into -> rescue, any type, wilderness, water, air, whatever....that is my passion and I know I would be very good at it, but can't make a living doing that :(

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Krona in Longmont, Colorado

40 months ago

Fed Up. in Wichita, Kansas said: Seriously, I don't think the people who are suggesting a library have been in one for the past twenty years. That's the last time it would have been a good position for someone who is an introvert.

Now they are busy trying to convert them to community centers and video for drunks and people who won't read because it's haaaaard. I'm not even going to be nice about it. I loathe my job in the library every single day and I work very, very hard as I do jobs for at least two people because they wont hire anyone to replace people who leave. They just roll the work into the next position handy.

It's a combination of the worst "work" of money counting and putting things away from retail, the worst "customer service" experiences you can imagine from a call center and bill collecting. Plus no one actually respects you and (obviously) everyone thinks your job is filled with fun and joy.

Do NOT go into the library field.

"Now they are busy trying to convert them to community centers and video for drunks and people who won't read because it's haaaaard."

Gotta have a dumbed down populace. Far easier to control.

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Violet

40 months ago

SarahH, just in case you missed my post, I would try fire lookout. It did take me two years, you apply in April usually, but I bugged the district manager in the area I wanted to get in to and I got in, and it's an awesome job for loners! Find out what the more remote towers are, some that are not do tend to get visitors, mine never does. I have no college so you would have a great shot. I would apply to several states. A lot of people with spouses and older children do it, you are gone for a few months and most of them get unemployment for the rest of the year. Also I clean on the off months. It's not too bad, very flexible and I go in at night and am all alone. I also did security for a number of years, again you have to find the right position. Some deal with people but I told them I needed to study so I got night positions where I was totally alone. I loved it! Not great pay though. The Forest Service does pay well and there is lots of overtime. I didn't go this summer but I want to go back next summer so already contacted my manager. FYI you do have to talk on the radio some, call in each morning and out each evening and of course report on weather and smokes and talk to the pilots some when they are coming with your supplies. But it's 99% alone in the wilderness. And you can bring your dog/s if you have them. At least in my district they flew my dog up with me. One girl even brings her toddler and baby but she of course is in a tower with a road in case she needs it. Anyway, just some ideas. It's worth it to keep applying, once you are in, you're in! Oh, and you can apply all over....I'm was in Iowa when I first got into a tower, in Idaho. Good luck with whatever you do!

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saraH in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

Violet said: SarahH, just in case you missed my post, I would try fire lookout. It did take me two years, you apply in April usually, but I bugged the district manager in the area I wanted to get in to and I got in, and it's an awesome job for loners! Find out what the more remote towers are, some that are not do tend to get visitors, mine never does. I have no college so you would have a great shot. I would apply to several states. A lot of people with spouses and older children do it, you are gone for a few months and most of them get unemployment for the rest of the year. Also I clean on the off months. It's not too bad, very flexible and I go in at night and am all alone. I also did security for a number of years, again you have to find the right position. Some deal with people but I told them I needed to study so I got night positions where I was totally alone. I loved it! Not great pay though. The Forest Service does pay well and there is lots of overtime. I didn't go this summer but I want to go back next summer so already contacted my manager. FYI you do have to talk on the radio some, call in each morning and out each evening and of course report on weather and smokes and talk to the pilots some when they are coming with your supplies. But it's 99% alone in the wilderness. And you can bring your dog/s if you have them. At least in my district they flew my dog up with me. One girl even brings her toddler and baby but she of course is in a tower with a road in case she needs it. Anyway, just some ideas. It's worth it to keep applying, once you are in, you're in! Oh, and you can apply all over....I'm was in Iowa when I first got into a tower, in Idaho. Good luck with whatever you do!

Thanks Violet, I'll definietely check it out. I love nature and the great outdoors!

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saraH in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

Violet said: SarahH, just in case you missed my post, I would try fire lookout. It did take me two years, you apply in April usually, but I bugged the district manager in the area I wanted to get in to and I got in, and it's an awesome job for loners! Find out what the more remote towers are, some that are not do tend to get visitors, mine never does. I have no college so you would have a great shot. I would apply to several states. A lot of people with spouses and older children do it, you are gone for a few months and most of them get unemployment for the rest of the year. Also I clean on the off months. It's not too bad, very flexible and I go in at night and am all alone. I also did security for a number of years, again you have to find the right position. Some deal with people but I told them I needed to study so I got night positions where I was totally alone. I loved it! Not great pay though. The Forest Service does pay well and there is lots of overtime. I didn't go this summer but I want to go back next summer so already contacted my manager. FYI you do have to talk on the radio some, call in each morning and out each evening and of course report on weather and smokes and talk to the pilots some when they are coming with your supplies. But it's 99% alone in the wilderness. And you can bring your dog/s if you have them. At least in my district they flew my dog up with me. One girl even brings her toddler and baby but she of course is in a tower with a road in case she needs it. Anyway, just some ideas. It's worth it to keep applying, once you are in, you're in! Oh, and you can apply all over....I'm was in Iowa when I first got into a tower, in Idaho. Good luck with whatever you do!

Thanks Violet, I'll definietely check it out! I love nature and the great outdoors.

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ALISTENER in Miami, Florida

40 months ago

FloridaMom1026 in Orlando, Florida said: Hello all,

What are some good career paths for someone who is not a "people person". I am not one of those smiley, happy, outgoing people. I like to sit at my desk and work and be left alone. I don't like dealing with the public. I absolutely HATE phones, answering calls or making calls. Please don't say data entry because 1) it only pays $9 or $10 an hour and 2)it's boring. I want something with some variety, where there is always plenty of work to do and I don't have to do busywork like filing or making copies. I want to go back to school and get a degree but I don't know what path to take. Thanks.

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OK... seens like you did not find your pasion in live yet. First, in my opinion you have to concentrate in what you like, which it is nor in your comments, and try to get information in different careers following your own path in life. Why you want me to tell you what's outher if you do't know what's inside you?

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Rio in Mannheim, Germany

40 months ago

I think we should all just start a business together, and be happy in our quiet little office where no one has to be fake or obnoxious!
As a fellow introvert, working in healthcare I cannot tell you how many times I got in trouble with my boss from patient complaints. It was always the same thing, she doesn't seem happy. Just because I don't smile from ear to ear like some psycho, doesn't mean I'm not happy!!

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saraH in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

ALISTENER from Florida, with all due respect, I for example did find my passion in life, but what I am interested in won't provide me with the income to pay my bills and support myself financially. It is not always that simple. Sometimes it's about finding the happy middle, and in my case it is a job where I don't have to interact with other people, because that makes me very happy. Once my bills are paid and I am able to have financial peace of mind, I can devote time and energy to my passion.

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Violet in Portland, Oregon

40 months ago

"Once my bills are paid and I am able to have financial peace of mind, I can devote time and energy to my passion."

SaraH- this is definitely true for me and for most people, I think...even my friends who are well off and like their work have passions they can only indulge in when they are off work. Just having a job we don't dread is huge :)!

I have a friend then does medical coding, I saw it mentioned earlier, but this friend does it at home. She says it's done more and more from home and she makes a living at it. She's done it for years, I don't know what the pay would start at, but it's something I'm looking at. Good luck! Wish I could sent you pics of "my" fire tower and corner of the wilderness, it's paradise for a loner!

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Jean in Mesa, Arizona

40 months ago

Excellent information and comments. Thank you everyone. I am doing a job search now. I have virtually always worked in some type of customer contact capacity from Human Resources Officer to call center rep. I like helping people but the standard office environment wears me out. I am determined to do work I love and I am no spring chicken. Life is too short to do something all day long that you hate. I may take a call center, pet hospital receptionist, or zoo assistant job to live on while I figure out what I want to do. I know I can do "a" job to support myself while I figure out what interests me. It's like being a college student--it is a temporary situation. You are just setting your own curriculum.

FYI: I worked as a museum registrar once. I worked by myself all day with artifacts and a pc. I worked for a small museum where they taught me what to do. It was interesting and heaven. You might start by volunteering at a museum that interests you--art, science, aviation, history, military.

Also, check out the state/county/city employment center in your area for free assistance in everything from aptitude tests to resume writing. There is a federal program called WIA (Workforce Investment Act). I'm not an expert on it but here's the link. You can apply for funds to attend school. www.doleta.gov/usworkforce/wia/act.cfm

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Flatulent Elephant in La Mesa, California

40 months ago

I work for an agriculture dept. checking insect traps in fruit trees all day long. Great job for an introvert! There's occasional questions from homeowners, & a small amount of contact w/co-workers @ the beginning & end of each day, but for the most part I am on my own & it is a pretty relaxing, easy job. Plus, when you're outside of work & people ask you what you do for a living & you say you're a "trapper", it's fun to watch their reactions. ;-)

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Kevin in Madison, New Jersey

40 months ago

Nice to see that I'm not alone in this. I work in a pseudo-IT job right now and I'm fine with the level of social interaction in which I'm required to engage, but there's absolutely no room for advancement where I'm at presently (despite the claims to the contrary by the department that absorbed mine two years ago) and my sole co-worker in the office is an absolute nightmare to deal with (unqualified, lazy, etc.).

The problem I've found with looking for jobs in the IT field is that it's such a broad-reaching description that I have no clue how to narrow down specifically what to look for. I've never programmed before (well, I used to program in BASIC when I was 4, but that doesn't exactly count), which sucks because it sounds like being a programmer would be more my speed. I just want to do something where I can take at least some pride and satisfaction in my work again and I feel like I'm running out of time to do that.

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Laura in Frederick, Maryland

40 months ago

I feel exactly how you feel!! My only job experience is retail and I want out so badly but don't know what I want to do. Fortunately I found a job recently that ables me to be creative and merchandise clothes but I have to deal with incompetent managers that scream at there employees on a daily basis. So now I am looking for another job but clueless as to what to look for. I envy people who know what their passion in life is. I just think its really hard when your an introvert because almost all the jobs out their want you to be super happy and talkative which I am totally not :(

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saraH in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

Laura, I know it may be frustrating to not know what your passion is, but this is the first step in figuting it out :) Start exploring, start discovering what you like, and what you love to do. It is a process and a journey which is worth taking. Best of luck to you!!

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fooooooo in Omaha, Nebraska

40 months ago

denise in San Antonio, Texas said: Surgical Technoligist... you will have to go to tech school in most cases.... BUT you work with people who are asleep, and usually in quiet enviorment.... I LOVE IT!

Yeah that's what I thought. But, you still have to deal with the surgeon and nurse, medical students, residents.. and then when you're not scrubbed in and sitting in the break room, they're all sitting around talking and I'm trying to hide in the corner with a book. Talking takes too much energy, can't I find a job where I don't have to put on an act everyday!?

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dislocated....again. in Radcliff, Kentucky

40 months ago

Starting over having been paid pretty well as in interior designer in the past. Mostly in the kitchen and bath industry. it was fun, a lot of people on the retail side, i dont hate people, i hate mean, rude, bossy, i know your job better than you people. just seems there are more of those than the other tpye, and i have almost no anger management skills. Anyhoo, even if the market didnt fall out of the building/remodeling thing, i want out anyway, cannot avoid catty evil bosses and co workers, snobby stuck up house wives, ugh. and, when youre working on long drawn out projects, it can really highlight the things you already dont like about someone. I cant decide exactly what i want to do, but i have narrowed it down:
medical information: transcribing, coding or billing
information technology: web development or computer programming
or business accounting.

if i didnt want a degree i would do anything in my power at all to avoid the public as a whole. Not having anger management skills as well as no patience would not work out well. I think that delivering things would be nice too. I dont really want a desk job, would like to get some exercise too while working, but not sure the two can be joined. i only have a month before classes start, so i guess i better get to praying, because none of these sound exciting, but im moving from exciting to steady, already lost everything once, not in the market to do it again.

wish you the best.

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sickofit in Chicago, Illinois

40 months ago

Leah in Oregon, Wisconsin said: "Give Me..and everyone who reads this who is in the same boat as me.. a F***** Break! I never in my 45 years of life heard of this rediculous pre conceived society made word. It is a form of Autism .. for anyone else who never heard of this.. Not everyone is social.. not everyone likes to work with people.. not everyone is the same period! That doesn't make us.. have a problem as your implying to check into. Granted.. "Our Kind".. is not easily employable.. however there are many.. career options.. that I can suggest... as could you have suggested as well! I and others in the same situation are here and reaching out for constructive sollutions.. not societies classification or some psychological word that classifies us. I happen to be Artistic.. Not Autistic.. "Big Difference" . I live in Wisconsin and have taken through a Job Center A WISC Test.. which is one of the Best Career Assesment Tests in my area. I was classified through and through.. all the way as Artistic.. Yes.. that category exists.. My career paths and job areas are in the Arts.. Acting .. Writing ...Fine Arts and Film Areas. FYI... Most .. artistic types.. prefer to work alone

I'm with you. I was schooled in graphic design in the days before corporations ruled the world. In those day it was possible to find a job where you sat quietly at a drawing table doing paste up. There was no talk of being a "team player" or "people person". There were not weekly meetings about agendas and goals. I am an artist and this mentality has me writhing. It has permeated everything including insisting on personality characteristics that are not NATURAL to an artist. I wonder if and where it is possible to just be a designer, valued as such w/o all the corporate crap (crap which Americans are WILLINGLY feeding into, to the point they believe it so much that they will suggest you have a disorder if you don't like to play??). Good luck, plz post your progress

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defeated in Park Ridge, Illinois

40 months ago

I am very introverted and I just got a job as an assistant manager for a property management company. Had to take it to survive...I feel so defeated. Just the thought of going to work makes me get a PANIC ATTACK! And no one understands, all my friends and family think I should be overjoyed...somebody please just put me out of my misery!

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ALISTENER in Miami, Florida

40 months ago

I am very introverted and I just got a job as an assistant manager for a property management company. Had to take it to survive...I feel so defeated. Just the thought of going to work makes me get a PANIC ATTACK! And no one understands, all my friends and family think I should be overjoyed...somebody please just put me out of my misery!

defeated in Park Ridge, Illinois

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Dear defeated: I'm not an expert, I don't even know your age, or the kind of preparation (schooling) you have, But I think that we all deserve to work in a good place, were we feel happy to go to... I'm just quit a job because that, the owner, manager, everything self-sufficient b*** were I used to work got me so sick one day, I call her and quit over the phone. Something I never did in my younger days, now I'm doing it. I told her everything I think about her, from control freak she is to how miserable she makes me every day I was working with her. I gave her an advise to stop treating the other girls like that or, pretty soon she was going to be working along... She apologized and ask me return to y job, but I turn the offer down, yes I need the money, the job... but Don't need a hear attack.

Maybe you need to prepare yourself to work in something like medical transcriptions, when you deal only with your boss and maybe a doctor you work for.

Lets do a seach: How to decide on a career, Lets read and see what we come out with... Sorry no one can do it for you...

www.google.com/search?sourceid=ie7&q=how+to+decide+on+a+career&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&rlz=1I7ACEW_enUS395US395

Please let me now if this help you.... Ady

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artzstuf

39 months ago

in response to the last comment made, that is far from respectful. People are sincerely asking for help here in a tough economy and even tougher job market. InfaCT IT IS GETTING WORSE NOT BETTER out there and people(working,not bums,nuts) are scared,desperate,angry at being layed off,depressed as can't find work in what used to do,maybe can't go back to school as don't have the money as lived check to check like many of us do and didn't prepare for a very 'rainy day'. Instead of being 'cold. as you've obviously learned to be to survive in the 'world',y ou might try having some 'compassion' for those unemployed right now through no fault of their own. I realize you probably tolerate what you do and the people you work for,with but view it as a means to an end,living in the lifestyle you've become accustomed to. I think the big word is acceptance for all here. 'If can't change your situation change your attitude'. I'd also say to those still working and hating it,be grateful you still have a job. Many hate work which is why they call it work. I'd much rather sit on my butt than do what I do. Try working from home running your own biz. It is not as fun as may think to be the boss. All the responsibility falls on my shoulders. What needs doing is endless to point I get lost some times for my sanity. What works for me is thinking like my clients,employees and treating people how I want to be treated,with respect. When I can't which is often, I minimize contact on phones,etc. Yes I do the job but am brief with people as I don't have the time to chit chat. I keep a loose schedule and make sure I incorporate fun,rest,good habits into it like eating right and exercise. i listen to my body,mind,spirit and then adjust. All connected. I stretch,meditate,breath,do what works,drop m what doesn't,avoid toxic people,through day to deal. Drop the judgement of self,others,don't compare as we are all different,lower expectations,don't mope,complain,pity,worry,do,pray,luv,laugh,give

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artzstuf

39 months ago

also want to add,join a support group of some kind to connect with people,the right people as there are some nice ones out there. Assert yourself. If don't know how to get needs met without being aggressive and obnoxious,learn from those who do by asking them to help you for barter and do what have a talent for for them. 'Scratch my back and I'll scratch yours' goes a long way now and in life. Always has always will. Many of the problems we see today have always been there. Many are simply ill prepared for them. Life is not meant to be easy,go your way,expect frustration and disappointment as part of living. You will have plenty of 'peace' when you are dead. I'd like to think there will be a next life after with God, when all will be 'revealed' but then that is me. Til then I'd say 'lean not to thy own understanding but trust in Him and let Him direct thy path'. Trust is the operative word here. God flows through you daily to live another day. He gives you a chance to set things right before you die. None of us know the hour. We just had a hurricane here and people lost everything. We are rebuilding. People came out in droves to help any way they could. We donated,food,pet food(as i am a big pet lover,think they are so nonjudgemental ,loving and just plain great!),I gave jewelry I sell to support nickel social we held at church to raise money. Warmed my heart to see the generosity. I think it's easy to lose trust when hurt repeatedly in life and i think many who have written in here sadly have been. We all have. It is natural to then try to protect yourself by avoiding people,the enemy but we are people too. All of us have good and bad in us,strengths and weaknesses,no better. Don't shut yourselves off from friendship,get to know people slowly,you might find you have more in common than you know or think. Who knows what others are going through?hypersensitive.. Is called EQ,emotional quotient. Needed to succeed besides high IQ.

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

"there's a lot of good in the best of us,a little good in the worst of us,so don't judge the rest of us". Easy to observe but hard to interpret what really is going on without speaking to people and asking them. I know can be hard in gossipy,back-biting,competitve offices as have been in them which am not currently. Do need people though as sure gets lonely alone all the time and no way to live. Also can't do everything for,by yourself no matter how hard you try. If have money can pay people to help you though I know Also some people will always talk about you for being self,as how they feel better about themselves as they have low self esteem. They also pick on people who are different but let's face it everyone is. Some just know how to 'fit in' better than others'. I prefer not to as am an artist. I do fit in in society though as have to to survive. Can be free and do what want in many ways but have to obey law,etc. I think 'outside the box' which is scarey to those who don't and are followers,sheep but innovative,creative people are not Would say if you,work some place with other artsy types but be prepared for 'drama' lol,'quirkiness'. Anyone who 'goes against the grain is'. Einstein,Edison,Jefferson all needed distance to think to create. If you know you have talent, I'd say watch movie 'In Pursuit of Happiness" with Will Smith about Chris Carter. Then pursue your dream and 'don't let anyone tell you you can't do something'. Many have given up on selves and their dreams as listened to what other naysayers had to say who were just too afraid to live their best life. Is what it all comes down to. FEAR AND ANGER. Is what people use to keep you inline. It is also what we have to fight to make it in this world. Is natural for people to be curious,distrusting what with world we live in and all that goes on. Listen to news. I try not to a lot or wouldn't leave home. Anyway am done. Am just trying to shed some light on this and give you a different perspective.

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Miss Anthrope in Houston, Texas

39 months ago

"Don't like people"? You should be in Management! LOL
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Seriously, I feel just like you and I love this thread. My husband said I should drive a dump truck because they make lots of money and all they do is deliver their load and dump it!

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

how about drive a tow truck? pic up car and go..

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Cora in Miami, Florida

39 months ago

Ann Reilly.....

You can try driving a semi, it is not as easy as can maybe appears, I did it for about a year, and quit... yes you are alone; yes you do not deal with people all the time… but for me was too much, the dispatchers some time are not the best; and at the end of the trip… is always a human been...

To get an idea just spend one day in a "Truck stop", get the feeling of getting a shower there, not at your home, eat the same food over and over, and not be able to see your family faces for about 30 to 45 days if you are in the road like I was... or get home so tired, that you will take for granted everything around you... ask a "road warrior, truck driver, OTR driver in a truck stop, buy a coffee sit in a chair and listen what they have to said... I wish I had done that before I when into driving.

But ones again, I met wonderful people on the road... that was the only good part of the experience beside the beautiful views of the country side.

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Kevin in Madison, New Jersey

39 months ago

Now you're talking!

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loner in Omaha, Nebraska

39 months ago

I too am an introvert. I've succeeded in avoiding jobs where I have to have direct contact with people, especially coworkers. I hate coworkers! I don't like having to see the same people (who generally don't like me) everyday. I'm a girl, and I feel like, because of this, most people expect me to be smiley and fake all the time. When I disappoint them, they start hating me, and I lose my job. Not because I'm doing a bad job, but because my coworkers hate me. It happens all the time. I want to work alone. I get along at my call center job, but I'd much prefer to do something else. I am a friendly person, but I'm very quiet. Good to see that other people have the same problem.

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sickofit in Chicago, Illinois

39 months ago

You're right, it is hard to be an introvert when you're a girl and society expects you to love to chat and gab, smile and be fake!
The library posts were interesting. I guess people assume that the old fashioned idea of the quiet bespectacled librarian whispering "shhh!" still exists. Guess it doesn't! Same goes for art jobs. If you work in a company you still have to have those awful weekly pep-rally meetings. You don't sit alone at your little drafting table or computer, but are part of the corporate "team". And also have to deal with clients.
Anyway this is a great forum for moral support. Nice to read the experiences of others having similar problems.

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

work with animals. Can board them when people go away and just let them out in yard if a dog or have them in a cage if a cat and let them out to pet a bit a few times a day and hang out with. If pet/house sit can stay at some nice houses too. I'd recommend using a service so never have to meet client but only deal with either owner of service or manager. yOU OFFER AN INVALUABLE SERVICE TO PEOPLE IF YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE,HONEST,leave home and pets as found them,contact vet listed if have a problem. They get to go on vacation,stay late in city working or partying without having to run home to Fido. It is also good for the pet as not fair to animal to be alone alot as they get depressed. Some agencies have celebrities as clients so you can imagine the figures I listed as possible salary would be infinitely higher. The place to be for Get paid up front so no one stiffs you. Is not a stressful job. manager can book a few assignments in same area. Service will have you insured and bonded to protect all concerned. You can take a 60 40 split your favor on each assignment or get paid for time put in like $10/hr. Walkers in nyc get $18-20 a visit and more if stay at place. Do the math. No public or coworkers and contact with boss is minimal. is an agency like a temp agency. They call you with assignments or visa versa you take on when want. Can easily make $120 a day tax free. Some places have benefits can pay into. See many walkers juggling 6 dogs at a time but I think that's nutty.

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mikey in Glendale, California

39 months ago

searching in Des Plaines, Illinois said: Most of the introverts I know work in some kind of IT and are highly intelligent people. I work with numbers, which are much easier to get along with than people. ;o)

I work in IT, and I am a introvert, so much so, that I prefer to work at night in a data center, where I rarely see anyone, except the occasional introverted colleague. I spend all night, with electronics and fiber optics. It's great, I communicate mainly through email with my employer, and everything is shipped to me, and people during the day, will send me emails telling me how much they like the job I am doing. I also like the $$$$. I put the headphones in, and work all night to my music, sometimes I get lost and work too long, and the day shift will come in, but as long as I have my headphones in, noone tries to talk to me. haha

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RobInStLouis in Somewhere, Illinois

39 months ago

mikey in Glendale, California said: I work in IT, and I am a introvert, so much so, that I prefer to work at night in a data center, where I rarely see anyone, except the occasional introverted colleague. I spend all night, with electronics and fiber optics. It's great, I communicate mainly through email with my employer, and everything is shipped to me, and people during the day, will send me emails telling me how much they like the job I am doing. I also like the $$$$. I put the headphones in, and work all night to my music, sometimes I get lost and work too long, and the day shift will come in, but as long as I have my headphones in, noone tries to talk to me. haha

Mikey.

From one introvert to another who is looking to change careers, can you share what it is you do in IT. Specifically, are you a network administrator, cabling specialist, network engineer or something like that? I have worked in data centers running cable for cameras, and it is indeed quiet and secluded with only the whirring of the fans to interrupt your thoughts. Access is restricted so there aren't many people around. Paradise!

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Angie in Port Chester, New York

39 months ago

Ann Reilly said: work with animals. Can board them when people go away and just let them out in yard if a dog or have them in a cage if a cat and let them out to pet a bit a few times a day and hang out with.

I wouldn't leave my pet with you if they weren't going to get proper exercise and be stuck in a backyard or a cage a good portion of the day. Definetly not the way to run that business. Poor kittty stuck in a prison for most of the day.

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

is called boarding which is why generally $10 a day. I personally never left cat in cage ever. I boarded in my home and treated as if my pet. Was describing kenneling. For more have to pay when I did it $10/walk or visit for 1/2 hour,15/walk out of town, and generally 3 walks a day=30-45,pet sitting staying in someone's home is more as am paying for someone to be with pet. I gave more and stayed longer with pet but I assure you many don't as is just a job. As said in city get $18/walk and often walkers have like 5 dogs walking at a time. Besides walking is feeding,watering,sometimes watering plants,rotating lights to make as if someone lives there,is security which many don't realize which is why worth every penny a sitter gets. Many don't appreciate the service given them which is why don't do it anymore. Get what pay for. You sound like want the moon but want to pay dirt.Had clients like you and couldn't stand them. Cuts both ways. You don't like people well right back at you. Dish it out be prepared to take it. As for letting an obese or very old dog out in a yard as opposed to walking him,there was nothing inhumane in that.Would say is bad dog is fat but can't control others or what they do,only me and my attitude. I walked the others. As for'not wanting to have me take care of pet' am truly grateful I am being spared the indignity of that experience or of having to deal with you. Thank you God. Is called paying my dues. Most here work. I would say treat others as want to be treated. With regard to the topic of thread'jobs for people who don't like people'. As said before,I think many myself included dislike dealing with rude,crude,mean,inconsiderate, ignorant people who don't think before say and do things nor care about it's effect on another person. In your case taking a pot shot at others don't know and work did. I made some mistakes in retrospect petsitting but mostly did a good job. Can live with me,human. I don't care what You think,honestly.

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ChiChi in Florence, Alabama

39 months ago

georgebuffet in London, United Kingdom said: Hi There !!

You can try some office administrator jobs and it will not have to talk with the people.
But you have to change this mentality, beacuse definitely you will get depressed in work, if you are taking any job like said.

Hope it helps :)

Regards,
George Buffet

Office Administrator? Are you effin' kidding me? As a VP of admninistration, the office administrator reported to me. We BOTH were hit up as soon as we got off of the elevator in the morning for all manner of petty BS. Administrators do just that, ADMINISTER which by its nature means you are catering to everyone else's needs while no one is catering to yours. We're talking seriously stupid petty stuff and constant putting out fires for those who are too lazy or incompetent to plan ahead.

As for changing someone's attitude? As long as people are unreliable a'holes who treat work like a hotel and check in only when they feel like it and don't do their share and expect me to figure out everything they are too lazy to bother figuring out themselves, even though it IS their job and not mine, then no thanks!

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ChiChi in Florence, Alabama

39 months ago

Try Medical Transacription. The demand is definitely thre and it is a skilled position. They listen to dictated tapes the MD makes and then type it all out. You will need to learn medical terminology but the girls in our office sit with headphones on all day typing away.

Also, medical billing, although it may not pay as well.

Also consider property appraisal but you will have to do an internship with a licensed appraiser first. Once you are licensed, you can get a couple of reliable realtor clients and they sond you out to do a drive by and then research the comps and value the property.

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

Want to comment on my response to post re: my post suggesting caring for animals,pet sitting. I reacted rather strongly instead of acting in a civil manner,sorry. The comment 'I wouldn't leave my pet with you' was an antagonizing one. Am working on controlling my anger,fear,releasing past and letting what others say and do roll off me. Can't personalize. Don't do that work anymore. Would say if do have a pet and use a service,be kind and grateful if have someone who is honest and does a good job as is not an easy biz as none is. I had to be bonded and insured,advertised and paid for it. Was alot of work. many think having own biz great as reap the profits but would have to say put alot of money,time out,exhausting. There is money where people have money like Westchester where you live as lived there too and worked there but many are obnoxious as have money, no respect and are a pain to deal with. If can,best to be discerning,see red flags and weed out the bad eggs right off as not worth it if lured by cash as may stiff you,find some reason to not pay balance as their M.O. Risky. I had good refs but who knew them? Many times went in cold to job and took a chance. Most nice as are most people. Just trying to get thru the day,survive,enjoy life,take care of family. As said before,working with animals is great but people pay you so have to please and be accountable to them. I would expect praise after an assignment only to get chewed out about something and blamed me for didn't do when I gave them extra like cleaning up after dog when deck was full of crap already when got there. My dog died,home burgled,still went to work as had an assigment and owner away. Responsibility and was,am responsible. Best to use a service and deal with one person,preferably nice but office temped thru agencies and they didn't care about me but commission. Sent me all over and misrepresented me 2.

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vancec in Azusa, California

39 months ago

I have enjoyed reading all of these responses. I am one of those people who is introverted, but I can still function within groups of people. I have called it "faking it" all of my life. That may sound terrible, but it's what's worked for me. I started my career as a graphic designer. I studied to be a writer. I have always been artistic. It really makes sense to me now that my natural tendencies to be a loner were showing up early on and manifesting as "artistic". I've struggled as of late with my career, as I have often found myself going in directions that don't make sense for someone who is introverted. For example, I was a salesperson for a while, and that didn't work out. I have done PR work, and that's not exactly fit for someone who doesn't enjoy being social too much. Even in my home life, I prefer to come home and just be a home-body. I live with my significant other, and I much prefer it's just the two of us without visitors, for the most part. Because later in my career I've found myself in roles where I should naturally be more extroverted, I've often felt like something is really wrong with me for not being natural at it and always feeling like I need to "fake it", as I mentioned before. It's strange how just reading comments like the ones in this forum has opened my eyes to the fact that I really am more normal than I thought. While I'm still confused about where I'm going next with my career (I've been unemployed for going on 1 year), I feel a little better and definitely more encouraged to strike out in a direction that I know is right for me, even if it may not be what others view is right for me. I have always enjoyed graphic design. I may dedicate myself to that now. Thank you to everyone who has left valuable insights here. Even though we're introverts, it's good to feel like you're a part of a community. If that makes sense. Best wishes to all!

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aprilshowers in Argyle, Texas

39 months ago

i am 100% positive that i am an introvert. i am not outgoing, not bubbly and cheerful, i have people anxiety, and i dont have the best social skills. i dont really like talking to strangers nor do i have very much interest in people that i dont know. i was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrom when i was a kid and i am now 22. i am pretty sure that that diagnosis was correct; i fit the characteristics of a general person with Asperger's. for all this introvertedness, i HATE it. as someone else said in their post, i also wish that i wasnt like this. i would love to be outgoing and social and good with people. i would be alot happier if i wasnt always hiding in a shell. and here's the twist to all this: i am currently going to beauty school and training to be an Esthetician. turns out, this carreer field does not fit my personality, of course. and i was too naive to know this before i got into it. so i dont know what to do! i feel like i am way under-exceeding in the business part of my training and it will affect me being a succsessful esthetician.

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Ann Reilly

39 months ago

one day at a time. One foot in front of the other and eventually you are down the block. Try meditating. I say a mantra'be still my soul' Do this atleast 20 minutes a day and think of nothing else. When negative,worry thoughts come tune them out and go back to mantra. I have a video on youtube s/n annspets4 on this meditation. Is highly effective. I also using walking down street,when doing chores don't want to do and so on. I find with hair stylists,just have to listen as people tell their biz to them. Just b e compassionate and treat others how want to be treated. they are just people. Drop the judgement,comparing to you. Lower your expectations,accept you and your performance will rise. Worrying over something that hasn't even happened. Think positively and replace insecure thought with secure one. Is the fight flight primal response. Telling mind to panic which cause tension,etc. You are in a good career if creative and it can be fun as why you probably chose career in first place. Don't let your fears stop you from attaining your dreams. Everyone has some self doubt,strengths,weaknesses. Write pro/con list about you. Bet there are more pros than cons and you don't want to be anyone else as we all have special gifts that make us us. If have faith,walk with God,He don't make junk. He is a great ally and can take away your fear of people as are just that people like you and me,not perfect,human with faults too. You are judging your insides against their outsides. Who knows what they are going through? When put your problems in middle of table with other people,people take theirs back as know can deal with them as have been. Say can't stand it but guess what you can as have. Take deep breathe,stretch,use aromatherapy to relax,self soothing talk.

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Violet

39 months ago

aprilshowers; I started school years ago to be a nurse and realized it was WAY TOO "peopley" for me. Someone said to me, "just because you bought the ticket doesn't mean you have to take the flight." If you really will be unhappy it's not worth going through with it. I have people anxiety also, but I would not be happier as a people person. I LOVE being in solitude and could be the only person on the planet and be just fine :). I hope you can find a path that will make you happier. Best of luck to you!

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Jean in Mesa, Arizona

39 months ago

There are nursing jobs that are not as people intensive. You might check with the advisors at the school that gave you your degree.

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