How Do You Cope In Such A Bleak Employment Market?

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

For the first time in my life, I feel like my efforts to find a job is pretty bleak. I never felt that way before, even when I was a single Mom on my own. Some days, I want to give up, but I cannot afford to do that. I miss having a purpose and I miss being able to afford to do things for my family. The holiday season and the news of Congress being in another deadlock is only making this stress of being unemployed worse.

So here is my latest question; "How do you cope when you want to give up the search?"

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Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York

29 months ago

Allot of people do give up...the correct economical term is the discouraged worker. I'm discouraged but haven't given up.

I've done allot of things around my house. Put deadbolts on doors, stain the deck, put in a walkway, etc etc etc.

I'm here on Indeed allot that helps talking to other lazy job seekers with large gaps in the resume.

Life stops really until I get another job.

Oh, I almost forgot I also cope by, you know.

How long have you been out of a job?

What is your field?

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York said: Allot of people do give up...the correct economical term is the discouraged worker. I'm discouraged but haven't given up.

I've done allot of things around my house. Put deadbolts on doors, stain the deck, put in a walkway, etc etc etc.

I'm here on Indeed allot that helps talking to other lazy job seekers with large gaps in the resume.

Life stops really until I get another job.

Oh, I almost forgot I also cope by, you know.

How long have you been out of a job?

What is your field?

I have worked in the administrative field, so my needs are not limited.

I have done all sorts of things around the house like paint walls and clean out closets when I am not on the online job search. But by late afternoon when the sun begins to go down again, somehow I feel like I lost another day. It's really hard to stay positive.

Like you, I won't give up. I can't. But the stress is awful.

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Unhappily im in your position as well. It will be 2 years in January. I found a permanent job in June to my elation. Only to be laid off in September. I keep myself busy and have plenty of hobbies and friends. Im one of the people that only work cause i need a paycheck. No other reason. My unemployment ran out in May and im in a dire situation right now. I to feel like giving up. Friends tell me to hang in there etc etc. However they cant really understand the situation that we are in.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania said: Unhappily im in your position as well. It will be 2 years in January. I found a permanent job in June to my elation. Only to be laid off in September. I keep myself busy and have plenty of hobbies and friends. Im one of the people that only work cause i need a paycheck. No other reason. My unemployment ran out in May and im in a dire situation right now. I to feel like giving up. Friends tell me to hang in there etc etc. However they cant really understand the situation that we are in.

They sure can't. I was just saying in another posting that I am so tired of hearing lame suggestions on what I should try. My family and friends should know better because I have done all sorts of things over the years. I had a home business for well over a decade when my kids were young, I took classes when I needed to change careers, I took on temp jobs to get experience, and have worked in my share of sh*t jobs to supplement my income when needed. I am not lazy and I am not a chronic complainer. This economy is far different than anything I have ever seen. I wouldn't be on these boards expressing myself if I really believed otherwise. I am trying to keep my sanity and I am trying to find a reason to fill out another application. But every day, it gets a little harder.

Please....please....please....no more job advise from people that haven't had to fight the masses in the last few years.

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: They sure can't. I was just saying in another posting that I am so tired of hearing lame suggestions on what I should try. My family and friends should know better because I have done all sorts of things over the years. I had a home business for well over a decade when my kids were young, I took classes when I needed to change careers, I took on temp jobs to get experience, and have worked in my share of sh*t jobs to supplement my income when needed. I am not lazy and I am not a chronic complainer. This economy is far different than anything I have ever seen. I wouldn't be on these boards expressing myself if I really believed otherwise. I am trying to keep my sanity and I am trying to find a reason to fill out another application. But every day, it gets a little harder.

Please....please....please....no more job advise from people that haven't had to fight the masses in the last few years.

Unhappily i do understand. I also get the lame suggestions as well. Here is another problem. When you try one of those suggestions and it doesnt work out (as I have). Then all i get is a "Im sorry". Hence im going to start trusting my own instincts.

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Yep in Iowa City, Iowa

29 months ago

There are days when I feel like I'm chasing a dragon. I keep up with hobbies, I listen to music. What I really need to do is stay away from career advice articles. Those people haven't had to look for a job in a long time, I don't think they would last very long if they tried.

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Yep in Iowa City, Iowa said: There are days when I feel like I'm chasing a dragon. I keep up with hobbies, I listen to music. What I really need to do is stay away from career advice articles. Those people haven't had to look for a job in a long time, I don't think they would last very long if they tried.

Yep in Iowa you are so right. You have to sometimes just trust your own instinct. A lot of folk will give you advice. Then when it doesnt pan out you get the lame "Im sorry".

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

29 months ago

Yep in Iowa City, Iowa said: Those people haven't had to look for a job in a long time, I don't think they would last very long if they tried.

They wouldn't last. No No No.

I always have this faint feeling of dispair in my stomach. It's there from the time I awake til I go to bed.

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Jeff in Denver, Colorado

29 months ago

I cope by taking classes. Lots of classes. I've learned a lot of new skills. I am more valuable now than when my last job ended. The only problem is that no employers care that I've learned new skills.

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ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington

29 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: They wouldn't last. No No No.

I always have this faint feeling of dispair in my stomach. It's there from the time I awake til I go to bed.

I can relate Joe. I'm on antidepressants.

I was waking up each morning feeling like I was waking up from a nightmare into something even worse, awake. It took me until about 5-6 hours later to feel semi-normal, talking myself into the reality that is. Then, around 8pm, I find myself going back to the despair.

It's bad, isn't it? Don't give up though. Seriously. I'm not going to.

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Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York

29 months ago

ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington said: I can relate Joe. I'm on antidepressants.

I was waking up each morning feeling like I was waking up from a nightmare into something even worse, awake. It took me until about 5-6 hours later to feel semi-normal, talking myself into the reality that is. Then, around 8pm, I find myself going back to the despair.

It's bad, isn't it? Don't give up though. Seriously. I'm not going to.

I don't take anything.

But, I actually want to take some medication just before the interview so it makes me HAPPY and ALIVE. I tend to go into interviews alittle down and it probably shows probably from being depressed from being out of work.

Need something over the counter.

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Jeff in Denver, Colorado

29 months ago

Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York said: I don't take anything.

But, I actually want to take some medication just before the interview so it makes me HAPPY and ALIVE. I tend to go into interviews alittle down and it probably shows probably from being depressed from being out of work.

Need something over the counter.

I had some success with 5-HTP, though I noticed that webmd.com claims that it is potentially dangerous.

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Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York

29 months ago

Maybe I'll just have a few drinks.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

The depression is overwhelming at times and I am already on a good and effective anti-depressant. I have been on it for several years with great success. I am not clinically depressed with the loss of my job. I am reacting to a normal stress and it does compare to the loss of a loved one. I say this because until I am gainfully employed again in a job that will utilize my skills and pay a fair wage, life feels pretty bleak right now and this ball and chain of being unemployed is always there with me. Think about it; with any other major change in life, usually you can at least afford to have some distraction with friends and family. When you lose your job, you feel guilty for even buying yourself a hamburger. Well, at least I do. I'm getting UI, but I am realistic. This will not last forever, nor does it pay for anything but the mortgage and some living expenses.

BTW, I have an interview coming next week. It's my first since my layoff. I am actually really excited about this, but scared to set myself up. I know many here have been through several interviews. I don't know how everyone does it. I pray I don't ever lose my spark completely. It's always been my best asset in life.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Joe Gagill in Poughkeepsie, New York said: Maybe I'll just have a few drinks.

I bet liquor sales are way up with this recession. Perhaps I should get my bar tending license? LOL.

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Jeff in Denver, Colorado

29 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: The depression is overwhelming at times and I am already on a good and effective anti-depressant. I have been on it for several years with great success. I am not clinically depressed with the loss of my job. I am reacting to a normal stress and it does compare to the loss of a loved one. I say this because until I am gainfully employed again in a job that will utilize my skills and pay a fair wage, life feels pretty bleak right now and this ball and chain of being unemployed is always there with me. Think about it; with any other major change in life, usually you can at least afford to have some distraction with friends and family. When you lose your job, you feel guilty for even buying yourself a hamburger. Well, at least I do. I'm getting UI, but I am realistic. This will not last forever, nor does it pay for anything but the mortgage and some living expenses.

When a relative dies, everyone understands because: 1) it's never your fault (unless you are a murderer); 2) it happens to everybody; 3) after the person suffering the loss adjusts to the change, things pretty much return to how they were before the death. When you lose your job, few people understand because: 1) some people are at fault when they lose their jobs; 2) it doesn't happen to the majority of people; 3) unemployed people have to change their lifestyle and it can stay changed for a long time.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Jeff in Denver, Colorado said: When a relative dies, everyone understands because: 1) it's never your fault (unless you are a murderer); 2) it happens to everybody; 3) after the person suffering the loss adjusts to the change, things pretty much return to how they were before the death. When you lose your job, few people understand because: 1) some people are at fault when they lose their jobs; 2) it doesn't happen to the majority of people; 3) unemployed people have to change their lifestyle and it can stay changed for a long time.

Perfectly put!! You can almost see the eye rolls when you even mention being depressed about being unemployed. Nothing hurts more than having to tell your kids that you can't afford the most basic of needs for them or telling friends that you have to pass on that lunch date because you don't want to come up short.

Call it pride, but being able to take care of oneself is a fundamental desire (unless you are some lazy putz, looking to work the system). My work ethic was always something I felt real good about.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

29 months ago

Have you tried fish oil for you depression? Google fish oil & depression.
I pray that things get better for you and your kids.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas said: Have you tried fish oil for you depression? Google fish oil & depression.
I pray that things get better for you and your kids.

Thank-you Beth. Just started taking it, not knowing the benefits to depression as well. I also upped my vitamin B intake since that is good for the nervous system. I am determined to not let this stress do harm to me physically. I can't afford to lose my health too.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

29 months ago

What makes people depressed when they lose their job besides no income and the difficulty of finding new work is that a job defines who you are even if you don't like the job. It gives our daily life meaning, purpose, and structure.

I think.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: What makes people depressed when they lose their job besides no income and the difficulty of finding new work is that a job defines who you are even if you don't like the job. It gives our daily life meaning, purpose, and structure.

I think.

It always did for me as well, Joe. I never climbed the corporate ladder or made the big bucks. But what I did in every job I took on was give it my all. I just felt good about working hard and occasionally being recognized by decent managers.

Being laid off after being a dedicated employee is a blow. The first few weeks after it happened, I kept asking, "why me?" But I see that whole company was restructured and our dept. was eliminated. It never was in my control; just like the sudden death of a loved one. The difference of course is that there is no funeral to attend and relatives and friends to weep with when you lose a job. There are no written words of condolence in a pretty card, nor are there flowers of remembrance. Those few individuals that really do care will say a few words of encouragement, but by no fault of their own, they just can't fully appreciate what losing a job is really like when you get into your middle years and the economy is bad.

Being able to stay positive is critical when looking for work, but it is one of the hardest things I have ever been through.

I just wish their was a little more compassion all around for people like us.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: It always did for me as well, Joe. I never climbed the corporate ladder or made the big bucks. But what I did in every job I took on was give it my all. I just felt good about working hard and occasionally being recognized by decent managers.

Being laid off after being a dedicated employee is a blow. The first few weeks after it happened, I kept asking, "why me?" But I see that whole company was restructured and our dept. was eliminated. It never was in my control; just like the sudden death of a loved one. The difference of course is that there is no funeral to attend and relatives and friends to weep with when you lose a job. There are no written words of condolence in a pretty card, nor are there flowers of remembrance. Those few individuals that really do care will say a few words of encouragement, but by no fault of their own, they just can't fully appreciate what losing a job is really like when you get into your middle years and the economy is bad.

Being able to stay positive is critical when looking for work, but it is one of the hardest things I have ever been through.

I just wish their was a little more compassion all around for people like us.

Typo....I wish there was a little more compassion all around for people like us.

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endoftheworld in Glastonbury, Connecticut

29 months ago

I finally gave up looking at the end of October and did not apply to a single job this November, did not even take a peek! December 15th is my 4 yr. anniversery; I feel like I was kidnapped by aliens and returned to the wrong planet, there is nothing here for me to apply to and nothing I can do ignoring the fact, i have been: a payroll clerk, ap specialist, marketing coordinator, admin, secretary and office assistant and have a BBA/concentration HR mgmt. with 2 minors. I also worked in retail in my 20's tho i'd rather not do that even as last resort, not to say i havent applied to well over 30 stores.

It is defintely worse for the single folks who are years away from retirment age, we are the ones who are the most likely to end up homeless surviving on the charity of others or not. There is not much on the news on this as it's only a small subset of people who don't really matter in the big scheme of things, the only talk of long term unemployed always involves the word "family" as if we were all married and at least our spouses are working.

I live in an area were the majority of folks are doing well and have disposable income, the shopping centers and mall p.l. are packed, I don't think the ave. person even worries much about this so called "fiscal cliff" or they are spending like there is no tomorrow because that is what they believe?

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

endoftheworld in Glastonbury, Connecticut said: I finally gave up looking at the end of October and did not apply to a single job this November, did not even take a peek! December 15th is my 4 yr. anniversery;.....

....I live in an area were the majority of folks are doing well and have disposable income, the shopping centers and mall p.l. are packed, I don't think the ave. person even worries much about this so called "fiscal cliff" or they are spending like there is no tomorrow because that is what they believe?

I cannot even imagine being out that long, but all of us here fear it, and with sound reason. It must be especially hard to be surrounded by those with disposable income. I too always found that difficult when times were tough for me. Nothing sux more than having friends say, "ooh, come join us for dinner and drinks", and your thinking. "sure, would love too but I'm broke." Instead you make some lame excuse why you can't come out that night because no one wants to hear of your financial struggle.

I really wish a miracle would happen for you. That is a long time to suffer so deeply and there seems to be little press for folks like you. I personally know 3 people now that have also been unemployed for over 4 years, all being educated and experienced. One is in his late 20's, so this isn't just folks in their 40s and 50s. This is a real crisis in this country!

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Nick in Linden, New Jersey

29 months ago

As to disposable income, I still blink when people buy $40 packages of salmon from me like it's nothing. Even if I could afford that, I wouldn't buy it. There are still things in my own case that I sell, that I wouldn't buy myself. $24.99 for scallops? Um, no. $27.99 for sea bass? Try again!

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Try this on for size. I had an interview this past Thursday. The person offered me the job. I accepted. Today I received a notice that the offer was rescinded. This is not the first. This is one of hundreds of full or part time jobs that I have applied for. Many of these jobs I had received interviews, and was offered the job, only to have some jerk tell me that now I am not a good candidate. I have been downsized twice since Feb. 2008. The depression has become so overwhelming, that medications will not work anymore. I do notr care anymore, I'm just going to sit on the chair and waste away.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: Try this on for size. I had an interview this past Thursday. The person offered me the job. I accepted. Today I received a notice that the offer was rescinded. This is not the first. This is one of hundreds of full or part time jobs that I have applied for. Many of these jobs I had received interviews, and was offered the job, only to have some jerk tell me that now I am not a good candidate. I have been downsized twice since Feb. 2008. The depression has become so overwhelming, that medications will not work anymore. I do notr care anymore, I'm just going to sit on the chair and waste away.

That's awful! Are they seeing something in your bkgd. check? No job should ever be offered until every single thing checks out and they are confident to start you out. I am so sorry. I can't imagine.

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

There is nothing on a background check. I even ran one on myself, thinking there was errant information that did not belong. All negative. The whole problem is that no one will hire anyone who is over the age of 40, ( I'm 56). It all seems to revolve who has the better Facebook page. Now with four years of sporadic employment, I am now a lost quantity. Any job that is offered to me are dead end jobs, with dead end pay, not even enough to pay me to work. I interview for jobs, I am told that I will hear either way. Nothing. I have even had interviews postponed while I was driving to them. I would do a followup , only to find out the job was filled. And one would wonder why I don't care anymore.

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endoftheworld in Bristol, Connecticut

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: Try this on for size. The depression has become so overwhelming, that medications will not work anymore. I do notr care anymore, I'm just going to sit on the chair and waste away.

I am no shrink but AD's will not work for situational type depression, I strongly suspect only a small % of people actually have a "chemical imbalance" depression that can be alleviated by increasing one's serotonin levels etc. via medications.

Everything boils down to one's attitude and coping skills.
Not all poor people are suicidal, some people with cancer fight to live while others give up much sooner given the same odds.
Resiliance is a fascinating thing, I am not sure whether the ability to cope is inborn or learned in early childhood or both, I suspect it is much like personality.

Anyways I wouldn't rely on the pills to save you from getting off that chair but never stop taking any type of prescription w/o dr. approval. i used to read various depression blogs (got too depressing so stopped) and lots of people would panic when the meds didn't work/stopped working, I felt they were overly relying instead of seeking inner strength.

I just wish i were religious, I have a feeling those people are better at coping and spend less time moping about their own lots in life, plus many people who go to church have a church "family" or support system if they are regular attendees and are involved. Probably having a strong support system of people who care about you is huge asset in helping one cope with long term unemployment or any major stressor, plus if others are looking out for you it's more likely you'll get referred for a job instead of wasting endless hours applying blindly online.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: There is nothing on a background check. I even ran one on myself, thinking there was errant information that did not belong. All negative. The whole problem is that no one will hire anyone who is over the age of 40, ( I'm 56). It all seems to revolve who has the better Facebook page. Now with four years of sporadic employment, I am now a lost quantity. Any job that is offered to me are dead end jobs, with dead end pay, not even enough to pay me to work. I interview for jobs, I am told that I will hear either way. Nothing. I have even had interviews postponed while I was driving to them. I would do a followup , only to find out the job was filled. And one would wonder why I don't care anymore.

Whoa. So not right :( Age discrimination is very real.

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ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington

29 months ago

I really think endoftheworld is well meaning but, since they don't have a doctor's degree, probably shouldn't try to give the standard ole' Scientology-esque comment about people not really needing the antidepressant. And then giving the standard disclaimer about 'but don't stop without a doctor's approval.' They always say this AFTER they insinuate that you're weak because you're on them. The truth is the person who seeks the help is the stronger one. And most depressed people go through a LOT of pain before they succumb to taking a pill.

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Jeff in Denver, Colorado

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: There is nothing on a background check. I even ran one on myself, thinking there was errant information that did not belong. All negative. The whole problem is that no one will hire anyone who is over the age of 40, ( I'm 56). It all seems to revolve who has the better Facebook page. Now with four years of sporadic employment, I am now a lost quantity. Any job that is offered to me are dead end jobs, with dead end pay, not even enough to pay me to work. I interview for jobs, I am told that I will hear either way. Nothing. I have even had interviews postponed while I was driving to them. I would do a followup , only to find out the job was filled. And one would wonder why I don't care anymore.

Can anyone run a background check on their own self?

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Ask someone to get the report for you.

I was doing volunteer work, until the money ran out. It gets your mind off your troubles, until you realize that there are still bills to pay. The only pills I am interested in are those to knock me out of the picture permanently. Unfortunately, I am too honest to rob the pharmacy to get them. So, I am stuck again wasting away in the chair.

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Jeff in Denver, Colorado

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: Ask someone to get the report for you.

I was doing volunteer work, until the money ran out. It gets your mind off your troubles, until you realize that there are still bills to pay. The only pills I am interested in are those to knock me out of the picture permanently. Unfortunately, I am too honest to rob the pharmacy to get them. So, I am stuck again wasting away in the chair.

Is there a such thing as a "background check form", or do you have to run credit checks, criminal record checks, etc. individually?

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endoftheworld in Bristol, Connecticut

29 months ago

ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington said: I really think endoftheworld is well meaning but, since they don't have a doctor's degree, probably shouldn't try to give the standard ole' Scientology-esque comment about people not really needing the antidepressant. And then giving the standard disclaimer about 'but don't stop without a doctor's approval.' They always say this AFTER they insinuate that you're weak because you're on them. The truth is the person who seeks the help is the stronger one. And most depressed people go through a LOT of pain before they succumb to taking a pill.

i know whereof I speak and I certainly am not a scientologist, have never even read their philosophy and not really sure what they stand for.
Anyhow in my post I was talking about MY personal belief on using a drug that helps with supposed chemical imbalance for a real life situation that would cause any normal/sane person to be depressed and stressed, chronic rejection alone will certainly do that to anyone no matter how thick your skin or how much you say you don't care.
I did not say the poster was weak, they said the drugs weren't working, I suggested they draw on their own inner strength instead of putting false hopes on a magic pill which can make one feel even more depressed when one relies on outside sources for "rescue" which don't work.
I only gave the disclaimer in case the poster was sick of taking the drugs too and decides to quit cold turkey cause some person on the i-net says taking drugs is pointless and I don't want to be responsible for the side effects of withdrawal which can happen if one has had one's brain chemistry mucked around with. Not that people should really take ANYTHING anyone says with authority to begin with, am on the i-net so much I have actually begun to find errors in facts, like mathematical errors when talking about statistics. I read on one site where the author wrote UE benefits were 26 PLUS 99 weeks!

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington said: I really think endoftheworld is well meaning but, since they don't have a doctor's degree, probably shouldn't try to give the standard ole' Scientology-esque comment about people not really needing the antidepressant. And then giving the standard disclaimer about 'but don't stop without a doctor's approval.' They always say this AFTER they insinuate that you're weak because you're on them. The truth is the person who seeks the help is the stronger one. And most depressed people go through a LOT of pain before they succumb to taking a pill.

So very true!! I didn't even realize I was living with clinical depression until I had a major career change some years ago that sent me into a hole. That's when I went for help and it was the difference between night and day. I was able to retrain in another field and quickly got a job.

My point about depression is this; there are two types, clinical and situational. I had both. Treating the clinical depression gave me the coping skills of everyone else that don't suffer from clinical depression. When you lose a job, that is the kind of depression that one would label as situational. However, like me, sometimes it takes a huge negative event to finally get help for something you have been trying to cope with on your own.

The antidepressants of today are very effective for many people and have few side effects. I personally would encourage anyone that has been suffering to go get help. A job loss may be that catalyst to a problem that has always been there on some level.

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

The only part that im stressed about is the bills. I dont need a job to occupy my time. Im in the situation. Its going on 2 years for me in Jan. I did land a job in June only to be laid off in September. Thus i didnt qualify for unemployment because my unemployment was already exhausted at the time. So i feel like i got slapped in the face twice.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania said: The only part that im stressed about is the bills. I dont need a job to occupy my time. Im in the situation. Its going on 2 years for me in Jan. I did land a job in June only to be laid off in September. Thus i didnt qualify for unemployment because my unemployment was already exhausted at the time. So i feel like i got slapped in the face twice.

Happened to me as well before my last job of 4 years. Got hired in June after temping for several months, only to be laid off in September. Actually, it happened 2 times in a row, leading me to conclude that temp agencies are often used when a company is unstable to begin with. I have learned my lesson. I will only go to a temp agency as a last resort at this point.

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

I refuse to use a temp agency or employment agencies. They don't give a f--k about matching you up for suitable employment. All they care about is getting them filled and doing a CYA to look good.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: I refuse to use a temp agency or employment agencies. They don't give a f--k about matching you up for suitable employment. All they care about is getting them filled and doing a CYA to look good.

They are a great way to get experience though and I don't regret going to them when I needed that. I was placed in some shaky businesses, but in my case, I did learn alot on the job and got some great references. I do agree they are not the first place to go to in the event of a layoff, once you are established.

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

They aren't even the last place to go. Except perhaps the PA Job Service. All they have are the jobs no one wants, or jobs that pay the least, or companies who subsist on commonwealth largesse.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

29 months ago

UnhappilyUnemployed,

Just wondering are you single or married ?

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: Happened to me as well before my last job of 4 years. Got hired in June after temping for several months, only to be laid off in September. Actually, it happened 2 times in a row, leading me to conclude that temp agencies are often used when a company is unstable to begin with. I have learned my lesson. I will only go to a temp agency as a last resort at this point.

Well in my situation this was a direct hire full time job. The pay was a little low but the job itself was ok. It was a laid back place and i couldve saw myself been there for a bit. Unfortunately the company that we had to contract with decided upon renewal of contract to cut the amount by 20%. At first they tried cutting hours. I knew a lay off was around the corner. Then one day they closed my entire department.

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OppositeLuck in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

29 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: They aren't even the last place to go. Except perhaps the PA Job Service. All they have are the jobs no one wants, or jobs that pay the least, or companies who subsist on commonwealth largesse.

As you probably see by a earlier thread i started my first experience with a temp agency didnt go well. I was there all but 7 days when i got the call @502 that the company ended my assignment. I was really hesitant to tangle with temp agencies after hearing stories from several friends. Although after saying that and my 1st experience I may give them another chance. Although lesson learnt now i realize anything can happen a anytime while doing temp jobs.

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ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington

29 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: So very true!! I didn't even realize I was living with clinical depression until I had a major career change some years ago that sent me into a hole. That's when I went for help and it was the difference between night and day. I was able to retrain in another field and quickly got a job.

My point about depression is this; there are two types, clinical and situational. I had both. Treating the clinical depression gave me the coping skills of everyone else that don't suffer from clinical depression. When you lose a job, that is the kind of depression that one would label as situational. However, like me, sometimes it takes a huge negative event to finally get help for something you have been trying to cope with on your own.

The antidepressants of today are very effective for many people and have few side effects. I personally would encourage anyone that has been suffering to go get help. A job loss may be that catalyst to a problem that has always been there on some level.

Very well said.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

29 months ago

ToBoeingOrNotToBoeing in Seattle, Washington said: Very well said.

Thank-you. I really feel for everyone here. Depression of any kind is very tough to deal with, especially when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.

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