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Bluetea in Texas

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: This period of unemployment has scarred me. You don't get over someone/company basically throwing you to the curb.

It makes you less outgoing and more protected of your feelings.

I am far less outgoing and carefree than I use to be.

Ever hear your grandparents talk about The Great Depression? Your grandchildren will remember you talking about The Great Recession.

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Mad Hatter in North Hollywood, California

27 months ago

I think we must have worked at the same company.

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: Ha! Good question. My company did their layoff in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day. It was a small company and about half of us got called in and hit with the ax. Then we had the awful job of cleaning out our desks in front of the other half that got to stay. No one would look at each other. It was surreal and kinda cruel. I actually felt sorry for the ones left over having to watch us fight tears as we took down are personal artifacts from our cubicle walls and cleaned out our desks with supervisors watching. I know this was purposeful and meant to send a message to those not cut. I know they are now doing twice the work with no extra pay. I think there should be a special place in hell for any CEO that makes a layoff any more painful than necessary. Most of us had been there for years with no pay increases, taking on extra work to help keep things afloat.

Sometimes I truly wonder if you really get over being treated like that by a company you showed loyalty to. I never thought to jump ship like some of the others before the ax hit us. I learned my lesson.

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Endoftheworld in East Hartford, Connecticut

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: This Craigslist ad made me smile.

Certified hot Yoga teacher wanted (Pleasant Valley, NY)
Seeking certified Hot yoga teacher once weekly.

If that's a legit ad it's for Bikram Yoga I believe which is the type where the studio is excedingly hot like 100 degrees. I believe the pt. is to purify your body thru intense sweating. We had a studio near where I live but it closed after a few months. Sounds dreadful. I've never heard it advertised as "hot yoga" per se but it was all the rage around here a while ago but I have not seen any advertisements for a while and not sure if it's being offered as much, it like exercising in a Sauna.
I got a reduced gym membership due to their scholarship program for poor people at the local Y 2 yrs., ago and had to give it up as the gym was too warm, if exercising indoors I prefer cooler than regular room temp as sweating is a big turnoff, I like to really work out hard and not be drenched in sweat just walking on treadmill at moderate pace. Most gyms are too warm for me so even if almost free I'd rather go for a run outside in 20 degrees.

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JWebster in El Dorado, Arkansas

27 months ago

Well, I didn't get a phone call from Home Depot today so I have to assume the worst, I guess I'm going back to NH to freeze my nutsack off, at least I'm 85% sure I can find a job there, here it doesn't seem to be going so well and I've already wasted 5 months dicking around

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania said: And it will show up during an interview. Then that will get you disqualified again. Another kick in the backside. And when does it end?

You are right, I am quite sure it has shown up in interviews. But, then again, haven't been able to get an interview for quite some time. Simply no jobs for me to apply for around here.

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Endoftheworld in East Hartford, Connecticut

27 months ago

John in Catonsville, Maryland said: If I remember correctly, I have been out of work longer than you. Trust me, you really, truly, do not want to experience the terror of being out of work, with no prospects (to speak of) for 5 years. Yes, it can and does make one more introverted.

Are you still actively looking? am thinking of calling it quits for good, after 4+ yrs. I think Hell will freeze before I get a job. The hopelessness and rage are almost intolerable and likely would be for a person with higher expectations.
After mother's constant nagging I emailed a follow up email to last week's interview (job sposed to start Monday) this morning and got NO reply. It was doubly annoying as I was toying with the idea of asking "what happened?" since I felt I clicked with the interviewer/potential boss but mother's constant nagging over it made it seem as if I wrote the note because mommy made me do it- argh!

Of course one would be MORE introverted with long term UE esp. if your job was your main source of socialization and human contact. If you did not have your museum volunteer job you'd likely be even more isolated and introverted. I believe if the L/T UE have friends, after several months/years? those contacts would fall off as you don't have the $ to go out and you will have the "taint" so nobody wants to have anything to do with you, in case it's catching.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

27 months ago

Yeah but eventually you have to leave your apartment and socialize with people at the grocery store, library, movies, the mall,...etc.

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

Endoftheworld in East Hartford, Connecticut said: Are you still actively looking? am thinking of calling it quits for good, after 4+ yrs. I think Hell will freeze before I get a job. The hopelessness and rage are almost intolerable and likely would be for a person with higher expectations.
After mother's constant nagging I emailed a follow up email to last week's interview (job sposed to start Monday) this morning and got NO reply. It was doubly annoying as I was toying with the idea of asking "what happened?" since I felt I clicked with the interviewer/potential boss but mother's constant nagging over it made it seem as if I wrote the note because mommy made me do it- argh!

Of course one would be MORE introverted with long term UE esp. if your job was your main source of socialization and human contact. If you did not have your museum volunteer job you'd likely be even more isolated and introverted. I believe if the L/T UE have friends, after several months/years? those contacts would fall off as you don't have the $ to go out and you will have the "taint" so nobody wants to have anything to do with you, in case it's catching.

I glance at a couple job sites from time to time. Not really looking very hard, way too frustrating as you said. What's worse is attempting to "live" with no money. I really truly don't want to live in a tent. I want electric, heat, some of the basic comforts of life. Then I will get greedy and want a car and a couple "extras" (a/c, tv, computer).

So, though I really do not expect to work at a full time job (forget about decent pay) something is simply going to have to give.

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Bailjumper in Mill Hall, Pennsylvania

27 months ago

This ia a first for me. I was fortunate enough to land an interview this week with a company. By the way, I was dumped twice this week already from other applications. I arrived at the appointed time. Well---- the door was locked, and no lights on that I could see. I wasted 84 miles and three hours of my time. I never received any notification that the meeting was off or postponed. I sent the corporate office a bill for travel expense, like that will get me anywhere.
And my wife can't understand why I don't care anymore.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

John in Catonsville, Maryland said: I glance at a couple job sites from time to time. Not really looking very hard, way too frustrating as you said. What's worse is attempting to "live" with no money. I really truly don't want to live in a tent. I want electric, heat, some of the basic comforts of life. Then I will get greedy and want a car and a couple "extras" (a/c, tv, computer).

So, though I really do not expect to work at a full time job (forget about decent pay) something is simply going to have to give.

There are places around the US that are called "tent city". People with no jobs live in old RV's and tents. Most carry shotguns around since it's like the wild west. One such place is in Calif. I think in the desert.

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JWebster in El Dorado, Arkansas

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: There are places around the US that are called "tent city". People with no jobs live in old RV's and tents. Most carry shotguns around since it's like the wild west. One such place is in Calif. I think in the desert.

It's called Slab City, just outside of a town called Niland, but there's a real douchebag named Eric Amptmeyer who is trying his hardest to make life almost impossible for the homeless out there

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Bluetea in Texas

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: There are places around the US that are called "tent city". People with no jobs live in old RV's and tents. Most carry shotguns around since it's like the wild west. One such place is in Calif. I think in the desert.

I use to work in downtown LA, not far from skid row and they use to have a little white, unmarked van that drove around early in the morning. They were from the coroners' office - picking up the dead. Very medieval.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

John in Catonsville, Maryland said: I really truly don't want to live in a tent. I want electric, heat, some of the basic comforts of life. Then I will get greedy and want a car and a couple "extras" (a/c, tv, computer).

The job your looking for doesn't exist. I know because that's what I'm searching for also.

Mostly 2 types of jobs out there. Great pay type but comes with unbelievable amount of stress, long hours, etc. AND

Low pay, no stress, dead end..........

50 hr work week, sometimes stressful, good pay to afford the basics and a few extras at times doesn't exist any longer. Once every 6 months I'll see one being posted but so does everyone else. Allot of times it's not in my field. Nowadays most of these jobs are in government. Example, DOL labor rep. (they only work 38 hrs)

Life s*cks John.

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: The job your looking for doesn't exist. I know because that's what I'm searching for also.

Mostly 2 types of jobs out there. Great pay type but comes with unbelievable amount of stress, long hours, etc. AND

Low pay, no stress, dead end..........

50 hr work week, sometimes stressful, good pay to afford the basics and a few extras at times doesn't exist any longer. Once every 6 months I'll see one being posted but so does everyone else. Allot of times it's not in my field. Nowadays most of these jobs are in government. Example, DOL labor rep. (they only work 38 hrs)

Life s*cks John.

That is exactly what I've been seeing for years now around here. Just trying to find high value stuff to sell and get pocket money at least. My present network go only so far with that at the moment.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

UGH. I keep trying to post, but keep getting errors.

Bailjumper, I am so sorry that happened to you.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

John in Catonsville, Maryland said: That is exactly what I've been seeing for years now around here. Just trying to find high value stuff to sell and get pocket money at least. My present network go only so far with that at the moment.

Those good middle class jobs are no more...yours and my parents used to have them.

Where do you get the high value stuff to sell?

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Louise in Newton Center, Massachusetts

27 months ago

UGH I try to keep a positive attitude but it is nice to read some of these stories/rants and realize I am not alone! I have tried everything but so many career coaches etc cost too much money. I did get cheap resume help, that has gotten me some interviews but the jobs would require relocating which I don't want to have to do. Anyway in the spirit of being helpful, www.fastresumehelp.com. Worth a shot and best of luck to everyone.

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: Those good middle class jobs are no more...yours and my parents used to have them.

Where do you get the high value stuff to sell?

I recently sold an old flag for close to 400 (from my parents). Last summer, a friend gave me some collectable tools which, when all said and done, netted thousands. Other things have included different electronics netting 50-200 each, mostly received from friends. I have sold a few things for museums which brought in some money as well.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

ONLY ON CRAIGSLIST!

Gay man looking to hire gay man (East Stroudsburg)

I have some small jobs to be done and would like to support a fellow gay man.

-Painting
-Dry wall
-Hang paneling
-Yard clean up
-Door hung

•Location: East Stroudsburg
Compensation: Pay
•Principals only. Recruiters, please don't contact this job poster.
•Please, no phone calls about this job!

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

Good one!

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Unix Brat in Asheville, North Carolina

27 months ago

HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah said: So....got a call from Walmart today to come in for a pt cashier position. Not too sure if I really want it to or not. Pt would mean not much money (and this is walmart after all) and transportation alone would cost me $65 a month. Ugh! Its something, I know, but its walmart. I wouldn't mind I guess if it was out on the floor but to be a cashier again. I really want to move and this would help (or hinder not too sure which) but ...

Hi, I haven't been following things too close here lately...but based on my own experience I would recommend taking a PT gig.

Best success either way.

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Unix Brat in Asheville, North Carolina

27 months ago

Joe G--you working?

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travler in Saint Cloud, Minnesota

27 months ago

Looking on the Bright side. Even though I think I live in one of the most BIGOTED areas in the Upper Midwest, where it is to the point where you can not even walk into a business much less fill out an application. Indeed has to be the best of all of the job search engines.

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moneynolivehere in Perris, California

27 months ago

Getting stressed on by my mom now, called lazy etc.. I know some of you know what i mean. I really try not to get depressed, i never let the situation soak in, but it can be pretty harsh when your mom gets on you. I never planed to be like this and don't like putting it on others, so I tend to try to keep to myself about it. I wish I could show her this thread, that outside of the news, and local gossip, there are a million of us struggling without a job, but I know the outcome would be "they are all like you, lazy".

The motivation factor just drops after putting out soo many job applications and resumes here and there, just to never hear back from anything.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

designer bee in Waukesha, Wisconsin said: I don't see the part about clothing being optional. Is the first thing on the list supposed to say "Panting"? And what's that last one about a back door? :D

I sensed hidden meanings as well. Dry wall...Dry humping.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

moneynolivehere in Perris, California said: Getting stressed on by my mom now, called lazy etc..

My stepmom is like that (unless you are talking about her adult daughter who is always a victim). She likes to say it is my fault. She has always had a good job, because she went into an open field (at the time) and was able to move up in her career. She also comes from money, so that has helped her, too. I ignore her. I graduated top of my class in high school, undergrad, and grad school. Multiple honors. Worked while going to school, and I did it all with a very painful chronic illness. Lazy is not something I will ever be.

I was at the UE office the other day, and I did not see laziness. There were tons of people there, and what I saw was sadness, despair, and fear in their eyes. Sure, some are lazy, but they do not come to job boards to vent because they do not care. I have a stepson who has never worked, is almost 21, and thinks it is funny. Several of his friends are the same way. Luckily, mommy is supporting him. And I know more than a few other people who are content to sit on their butts and do nothing. But, I think the majority DO want to work, but being unemployed is insanity now.

It is very hard to cope with this, but when people judge you, it is so much worse. Especially your family. I have VERY successful family members, and the holidays and other gatherings are awful. I get it.

As long as you know you are doing everything you can to find work, you can look in the mirror and be happy with yourself. NO ONE knows what this is like, unless they are going through this. And they really do not care. And the employers do not care, so it feels like you are all alone. But, you are not-those of us dealing with this really do understand.

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HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah

27 months ago

My mother is the same way and getting worse. She has made snide comments ever since I moved back in. My brother "has never been out of work in this recession" (he drives a delivery truck). She keeps talking about how all these unemployed need to pick up a broom and start sweeping the streets to earn their welfare and "how come there are jobs out there but you claim you can't find one" to "I did what I had to do when I was raising you kids, how come you think you're better than me".

I want out so bad it's depressing. She complains about everything. If I didn't have my son I would walk away. Some days I feel like doing that anyways. He has picked up her snide comments and repeats them. I'm used to her treating me like crap but it really hurts coming from him. Some mornings I just sit here and curse the day I was born. I wasn't wanted then, not wanted now. Employers don't want me, child doesn't want me. I never had a problem getting a job until she convinced me to to work while I was going to school and taking care of him. Now I can't find a job anywhere.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah said: My mother is the same way and getting worse. She has made snide comments ever since I moved back in. My brother "has never been out of work in this recession" (he drives a delivery truck). She keeps talking about how all these unemployed need to pick up a broom and start sweeping the streets to earn their welfare and "how come there are jobs out there but you claim you can't find one" to "I did what I had to do when I was raising you kids, how come you think you're better than me".

I want out so bad it's depressing. She complains about everything. If I didn't have my son I would walk away. Some days I feel like doing that anyways. He has picked up her snide comments and repeats them. I'm used to her treating me like crap but it really hurts coming from him. Some mornings I just sit here and curse the day I was born. I wasn't wanted then, not wanted now. Employers don't want me, child doesn't want me. I never had a problem getting a job until she convinced me to to work while I was going to school and taking care of him. Now I can't find a job anywhere.

I feel so badly for you. I am lucky I have a supportive husband who really understands how this is. He has watched me suffer through this, and he is still so positive. Some days, I am really down. My family kind of gets it, except for stepmom, but she does not really count. :)

Your mom is probably not going to change, because in her mind, there are jobs out there, that are easy to find. She will never be able to comprehend what you are going through. Your son is just feeding off of her negative energy. He knows she is annoyed, he sees your stress, and he is responding in the best way he knows how. It hurts, but it has NOTHING to do with you as his mom. When you find a job and get away from your mom, he will change. Now, he is just trying to cope. He cannot possibly understand what you are going through, either.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

27 months ago

Sighing,

Is your stepson currently in college ?
What does you husband say about him not wanting to work ?

Its good that you have a supportive husband.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas said: Sighing,

Is your stepson currently in college ?
What does you husband say about him not wanting to work ?

Its good that you have a supportive husband.

My stepson does nothing but play video games, eat, and sleep. His mother is supporting him. He turned down two jobs his friends found for him. My husband cannot believe that his kid refuses to work, when he has watched my husband work many hours a week for years. The kid wants a job that pays 20 bucks an hour, Monday to Friday, no weekends or nights, and he does "not want to work too hard." I have met more like him, but he just refuses to look for work at all.

My husband is an awesome guy. He knows I am trying.

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JWebster in El Dorado, Arkansas

27 months ago

Well, I thought this might help me feel better about things to chat with some other people that are in the same boat, but it's kinda just making me more depressed.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

27 months ago

Maybe dad needs to have a talk with his adult son and force him to find any job even if its flipping burgers. If that was my son he would be out of the house with that attitude and crazy view of life.

Young adults think they are owed something in life...
the only thing they are entitled to is a swift kick on their ass.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas said: Maybe dad needs to have a talk with his adult son and force him to find any job even if its flipping burgers. If that was my son he would be out of the house with that attitude and crazy view of life.

Young adults think they are owed something in life...
the only thing they are entitled to is a swift kick on their ass.

He lives with his mom, and is never coming here. My husband has tried and tried to get him to wake up, he just refuses to apply. He thinks it is funny. His mother is getting annoyed, but she needs to do something, and so far, she has done nothing but suggest he come live with us. That will NEVER happen. It makes me so mad, I see people here and everywhere struggling and he thinks he is owed some great job.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

27 months ago

Joe,

What happened to the bus driving job ?

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HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah

27 months ago

I think I have found something more frustrating than looking for work. Forcing a lazy 8 year old to do the write-up for his science fair project. He had fun with the experiment but getting him to write is like pulling teeth. Grandma is yelling at me for making him do it (her favorite line right now "I don't remember you ever doing the science fair little miss genius"--gaw I hate this woman). He is really smart, really lazy, and thinks the world owes him...I feel like I am describing every 19 year old I meet (except they don't cry to get out of doing something).

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John in Catonsville, Maryland

27 months ago

sighing in southern, New Jersey said: My stepson does nothing but play video games, eat, and sleep. His mother is supporting him. He turned down two jobs his friends found for him. My husband cannot believe that his kid refuses to work, when he has watched my husband work many hours a week for years. The kid wants a job that pays 20 bucks an hour, Monday to Friday, no weekends or nights, and he does "not want to work too hard." I have met more like him, but he just refuses to look for work at all.

My husband is an awesome guy. He knows I am trying.

When I was somewhere around my late teens/ early 20s, I got laid off from some job. I spent the next 3-4 weeks sucking up the unemployment and sleeping late thinking "hey, this is a sweet deal". I was living at home with my folks. After approx 3-4 weeks, daddy pulled me aside and said "you have two choices..... move out or get a job". I got a job within a few days.

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Bluetea in Texas

27 months ago

sighing in southern, New Jersey said: He lives with his mom, and is never coming here. My husband has tried and tried to get him to wake up, he just refuses to apply. He thinks it is funny. His mother is getting annoyed, but she needs to do something, and so far, she has done nothing but suggest he come live with us. That will NEVER happen. It makes me so mad, I see people here and everywhere struggling and he thinks he is owed some great job.

In marketing, they have something called The Losers List. It is actually a multi-generational database. It consists of 3 or more adults living in one physical address with some kind of relationship: parent/child, grandfather/grandchildren, sibling/sibling, etc. Again, the 3rd person is an adult.

You have to wonder what will happen to society with all these 30 year old toddlers living at home now. The Losers numbers in the millions today.

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HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah

27 months ago

I got my first job at 15 and was NEVER out of a job for more than 2 days for the next 14 years. I would quit one, walk around, and have several interviews for the next day. I don't like being out of work...any work. The last 8 years has killed me completely.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

27 months ago

HH,

Is your son's father helping out financially ?

I hope you can find work soon and move out.

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HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah

27 months ago

Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas said: HH,

Is your son's father helping out financially ?

I hope you can find work soon and move out.

Short story, no. We were together for 3 years then when I was 5 months pregnant he said "It's me or the kid"...I think we all know how that turned out :)

He has never seen my son, been in contact, or anything else.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

Bluetea in Texas said: In marketing, they have something called The Losers List. It is actually a multi-generational database. It consists of 3 or more adults living in one physical address with some kind of relationship: parent/child, grandfather/grandchildren, sibling/sibling, etc. Again, the 3rd person is an adult.

You have to wonder what will happen to society with all these 30 year old toddlers living at home now. The Losers numbers in the millions today.

I am seeing it more and more. I understand when people are in a bind, and they have to move back home. I don't have that option, because my parents do not have room for me, but if I did, and needed to, I would be helping out and applying to every job I could. But, to blatantly not want to work or do anything productive amazes me. We talked a lot about that in my classes, and some said it is part of this generation (not all, just seems to be quite a few) or generational, in that family members passed down the "lazy mentality."

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designer bee in Waukesha, Wisconsin

27 months ago

I started working for my mom (who owned a retail business) when I was in high school. Actually, I helped her my whole life, because I got volunteered often, but in high school I got paid to help. Then I was employed by a number of different companies until my late 30s without a gap. It didn't even take that much effort to get a job and get through an interview.

Then 2002 I got laid off, decided to go to school and I've struggled ever since. It's been 11 years of BS. Getting laid off again and again. Part time jobs, temp jobs and no jobs. Some of the jobs I was a perfect fit, but couldn't get hired. Other jobs were so simple anyone could do them, but can't get those either.

It's very frustrating and makes me feel like I should be on the loser list. How did I get to this point? I grew up in a family where we always worked hard.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

designer bee in Waukesha, Wisconsin said: I started working for my mom (who owned a retail business) when I was in high school. Actually, I helped her my whole life, because I got volunteered often, but in high school I got paid to help. Then I was employed by a number of different companies until my late 30s without a gap. It didn't even take that much effort to get a job and get through an interview.

Then 2002 I got laid off, decided to go to school and I've struggled ever since. It's been 11 years of BS. Getting laid off again and again. Part time jobs, temp jobs and no jobs. Some of the jobs I was a perfect fit, but couldn't get hired. Other jobs were so simple anyone could do them, but can't get those either.

It's very frustrating and makes me feel like I should be on the loser list. How did I get to this point? I grew up in a family where we always worked hard.

I have struggled, too. Never had a career, which is why I went for the Masters. We are not losers-we are trying. I think some people just get really lucky. I have several family members in their mid and late 30s who have been at their jobs 15-20 years. They are doing well, but that seems to NOT be the norm these days. And they are the kind who do not understand this insanity.

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sighing in southern, New Jersey

27 months ago

John in Catonsville, Maryland said: When I was somewhere around my late teens/ early 20s, I got laid off from some job. I spent the next 3-4 weeks sucking up the unemployment and sleeping late thinking "hey, this is a sweet deal". I was living at home with my folks. After approx 3-4 weeks, daddy pulled me aside and said "you have two choices..... move out or get a job". I got a job within a few days.

My dad told my brother the same thing. If my husband's son was living with him, he would be working. But, that is not ever happening. ;)

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Endoftheworld in Glastonbury, Connecticut

27 months ago

another day in paradise.
mother harping again on my "well just get a job at the Dollar Store - they'll take anybody" Ugh. we have already had this talk over and over many, many times. I'd rather be dead than work at a store like that, retail just ain't my thing and certainly not a store of that class, if I'm going to be humiliated I may as well work at Barnes and Noble tho they have rejected my app 3 times. I had to quit a short stint at Banana Republic during my 2007 gap because the big boss was really on my case for not smiling and engaging with the customers more. instead of putting me out back in the stock room she kept assigning me to the front of the store as greeter when one could not pay me enough to be friendly, outgoing and engaging AND i NEVER smile on command, period.

Anyways, I believe I am the only person here not watching that superbowl football thingie. The neigbhor's dog has been whimpering non-stop since around 5, am bout ready to break in there and smother it with a pillow but unfortunately the bigger dog would likely attack me, she is almost as bad as the little one, I often think they are having some kind of contest, her deep growly bark is just as unnervating; they win I lose. I doubt a note on the door would be of any use, these people are not the brightest or compassionate sort, their answer to my complaining bout the A/C was "well we don't hear it, it doesn't bother us" -shrug shoulders. I know 1/2 the time they are home and I never hear them say anything to quiet the dogs whom they let run around the common area in OUR shared backyard as if it were their own.

nothing in Sunday's paper jobswise I can apply to either...

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

27 months ago

sighing in southern, New Jersey said: I have struggled, too. Never had a career, which is why I went for the Masters. We are not losers-we are trying. I think some people just get really lucky. I have several family members in their mid and late 30s who have been at their jobs 15-20 years. They are doing well, but that seems to NOT be the norm these days. And they are the kind who do not understand this insanity.

Maybe we are losers.

But I think it's a different world today. Just not much opportunity in terms of a real job.

I felt like slapping the interviewer last week for an outside sales job. He told me sometimes I would have to work the inside sales desk some Saturdays from 7:30 to 12. I replied that there's always some negatives to one's job but it wouldn't be a problem. He shot back "this isn't a negative!" "It gives you a chance to learn the inside sales position." When he first told me about working a few Saturdays his tone suggested that it wasn't something outside sale people enjoyed. What was wrong with my response am I suppose to flash a big smile and say something phony as my reply.

I hate going on interviews and realizing afterwards why did I waste my time and gas.

Life s*cks.

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Cheshire in Mississauga, Ontario

27 months ago

Endoftheworld in Glastonbury, Connecticut said: another day in paradise.
mother harping again on my "well just get a job at the Dollar Store - they'll take anybody" Ugh. we have already had this talk over and over many, many times. I'd rather be dead than work at a store like that, retail just ain't my thing and certainly not a store of that class, if I'm going to be humiliated I may as well work at Barnes and Noble tho they have rejected my app 3 times. I had to quit a short stint at Banana Republic during my 2007 gap because the big boss was really on my case for not smiling and engaging with the customers more. instead of putting me out back in the stock room she kept assigning me to the front of the store as greeter when one could not pay me enough to be friendly, outgoing and engaging AND i NEVER smile on command, period.

You're not going to like this but being smily, friendly and engaging with customers is what retail is all about. Before looking for a career job, I worked retail for approximately 5+ years (been working since I was 14). That's what it's all about.

You obviously did not fit the mold or the job description, hence why she kept putting you out front either to force you to improve your attitude or to have a reason to let you go.

Sometimes as much as you you feel nobody can pay you enough to smile and be engaging....thats the job. That's what it's all about. If anything use it as practice...faking it as part of it. You might not like that fact but it's a fact of life. Almost all jobs require some this skill (being engaging, personable etc.) its just life. The sooner you accept that, I promise the more opportunities will open up for you.

I read a lot of myself in your post. Trust me....I've changed my attitude and more leads have opened up since.

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Cheshire in Mississauga, Ontario

27 months ago

think about it as well....you're getting paid to smile and stand there welcoming people into the store. You could be working a lot harder and making the same amount.

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HappyHitchhiker in Salt Lake City, Utah

27 months ago

designer bee in Waukesha, Wisconsin said: I started working for my mom (who owned a retail business) when I was in high school. Actually, I helped her my whole life, because I got volunteered often, but in high school I got paid to help. Then I was employed by a number of different companies until my late 30s without a gap. It didn't even take that much effort to get a job and get through an interview.

It's very frustrating and makes me feel like I should be on the loser list. How did I get to this point? I grew up in a family where we always worked hard.

Definitely not a loser. I know there is a perfect job for you and a perfect employer...it's just a matter of finding each other. I think everyone needs a new perspective (myself included). I vowed today to spend 15 minutes every morning thinking about what I love and desire in my life then get up, get dressed, eat, and work towards my goal a little each day. At night, spend 15 minutes thinking about at least one good thing that happened that day ( anything will do...movie, flower, sunny day, you get the picture). Then start it all over the next day.

I know it's not perfect and will not change over night but each and everyone on this board will find a job, a significant other, a new place to live, or whatever they are looking for but in the meantime we cannot change others opinions of us, so we can only encourage and support ourselves.

No one is a loser...that is high school clique talk designed to make one feel superior to another. We all desire different things but no one is better than another (employed or unemployed). This is the start of a new year and it will get better

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JWebster in El Dorado, Arkansas

27 months ago

As cheesy as it sounds, I'm seriously considering trying my hand at the local farmer's market, growing a bunch of vegetables and just giving it a go when I get back to NH, I'm certainly not going to probably even make enough money to pay rent or anything like that but I like being outdoors and it will keep me busy for 6 months, I would encourage anybody who is even remotely interested in gardening to do the same thing.

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