How to find a job after being fired because my supervisor didnt like me

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

42 months ago

Lamb1219 in Birmingham, Alabama said: I was suddenly fired from my job at the end of July, because my supervisor did not like me. I have never been fired from a job, let alone, have issues getting along with people. I am now trying to find a new job and have been on about 8 interviews and have not been offered a job. I feel like my being "black balled
from finding a job, because the places I interview with call my previous employer and who knows what they are told. Anyone know how to handle this? I desperately need a job, but cannot land a job, and I think, its because I was fired from my last job. I am a good person and a hard worker, it stinks that one person can ruin that all for me. Thanks for anyone advice!

Sadly, I think this is how some small employers handle getting out of laying off someone so they can't collect UC. I have worked for a few small businesses where I saw this play out when they needed to trim some staff. I don't know if this was your case, but being fired for not getting along with a supervisor is not uncommon, but not something you would ever discuss with a new employer.

Did you work there long? Can you leave them off the resume? If not, chances are real good in your favor that they won't say anything negative about you should your potential new employer call to check the dates you worked. These days of lawsuits and such, old employers aren't even giving out good revues, just reciting salaries and dates.

Also, do you have any former coworkers that would be willing to be a good reference? I have played that role for some people I saw let go unfairly. The issue of them being fired never came up and I was able to truthfully give a good reference for the person in question.

Anyone that I ever knew that got fired from a job seem to find employment again. Of course this was before any of us found it impossible to get a job. I think your odds will be the same as anyone else here. Good luck.

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Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania

42 months ago

Lamb1219 in Birmingham, Alabama said: I was suddenly fired from my job at the end of July, because my supervisor did not like me. I have never been fired from a job, let alone, have issues getting along with people. I am now trying to find a new job and have been on about 8 interviews and have not been offered a job. I feel like my being "black balled
from finding a job, because the places I interview with call my previous employer and who knows what they are told. Anyone know how to handle this? I desperately need a job, but cannot land a job, and I think, its because I was fired from my last job. I am a good person and a hard worker, it stinks that one person can ruin that all for me. Thanks for anyone advice!

Also I wanted to add that even if your old employer is bad mouthing you; it doesn't mean their competitors aren't aware of their reputation as being difficult. I worked in an industry many years ago where blackballing was a real fear. Turns out that once I got away from this employer I gave 9 years to, no one paid any attention to her craziness. Yes, I once feared she could ruin me and yes, she made it her mission to blackball me. I was working again within days for her competitor because these other employers couldn't believe I lasted even a month with this woman. LOL.

Fast forward to this last recent stint of unemployment, I too have been to almost a dozen interviews with no offer and I had a great reputation at my old company. Heck, I wish someone would talk to my old manager. I might have a chance.

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Beth in Plano in Plano, Texas

42 months ago

That sucks :(

What type of career field were you in ?
Can you use former coworkers as a reference?

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Unix Brat in Asheville, North Carolina

42 months ago

Riot in Massachusetts said: Have you tried to have a friend call and pretend to be checking a reference, just to see if your previous employer is doing anything other than verifying dates of employment? How long were you at the previous job? Do you think you could leave it off your resume and still get interviews?

I did something akin to this when I was concerned a former supervisor was blackballing me.
I paid a service to do it though, so it would be totally professional and impartial. To me, it was worth the $20-odd I paid.

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Bluetea in Texas

42 months ago

Riot in Massachusetts said: Have you tried to have a friend call and pretend to be checking a reference, just to see if your previous employer is doing anything other than verifying dates of employment?

This will only work if your last employer was Elroy's Typewriter Repair. Most companies (not all) have not done verbals since the typewriter.

There are services like checkmyreferences.com that will do a reference check for you. Its very reasonable.

Still, if you were fired, there is nothing to stop a company from saying you were fired.

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Endoftheworld in Hamden, Connecticut

42 months ago

it will be difficult to get another job after being fired. to disclose this on a job application "reason for leaving last job" or in interview "why did you leave co. xyz?" is a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation esp. if you don't have another managerial type person you can use as a ref.
While co. are tech. "not allowed" to badmouth former EE's they can say reason for termination and whether or not they'd rehire the person.

I used to say that it was "time for a change" for jobs I was forced to resign from or "job not what expected" for jobs I was terminated from due to performance issues. In my situation I've never left a job on good terms and have no references so that is one reason after 5 yrs. I am utterly unable to get a new one esp. where an application needs to be filled out where one is asked for reason for separation.

I lie about the question "have you ever been terminated or asked to resign a job?" may as well shoot myself in the head to answer that positively and actually explain what happened since the explanation would not ameliorate things.
The longer your gap the harder it will be to get another job as the gap alone increases suspicion as to why you became unemployed in the 1st. place.

I was technically "laid off due to elimination of the office assistant job" at my last place but prior to this I was told that they were going to have to let me go if I didn't make myself useful enough.
Earlier in my unemployment i was asked if they were going to rehire me once the economy improved and then I'd have to explain how my duties were farmed out to the remaining staff and I did not believe they would be needing an office assistant which just made it seem as if my job was really a nothing job.

Not all interviewers are terribly interested in past employment but some ask detailed questions about what you liked the most and least and things like "what would your last boss say about you" etc.
It's really a matter of luck...or NOT

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Lostmyhope in Virginia

42 months ago

Lamb1219 in Birmingham, Alabama said: I was suddenly fired from my job at the end of July, because my supervisor did not like me. I have never been fired from a job, let alone, have issues getting along with people. I am now trying to find a new job and have been on about 8 interviews and have not been offered a job. I feel like my being "black balled
from finding a job, because the places I interview with call my previous employer and who knows what they are told. Anyone know how to handle this? I desperately need a job, but cannot land a job, and I think, its because I was fired from my last job. I am a good person and a hard worker, it stinks that one person can ruin that all for me. Thanks for anyone advice!

get a friend to act like your boss and put that number down as the number to call!!! you wouldnt be the first person to get fired and had to work around it!

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Jeff in Greenbelt, Maryland

42 months ago

Find out how you were officially terminated. Companies often technically lay people off instead of firing them to protect against wrongful termination suits and because it saves on paperwork. If that was the case with you, then you can state that you were laid off rather than fired.

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Bluetea in Texas

42 months ago

Jeff in Greenbelt, Maryland said: Find out how you were officially terminated. Companies often technically lay people off instead of firing them to protect against wrongful termination suits and because it saves on paperwork. If that was the case with you, then you can state that you were laid off rather than fired.

Much easier to lay people off than to fire them.

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neednewjob in Chicago, Illinois

42 months ago

Whatever you do, don't use the "he didn't like me" line. The second you say that in an interview, you've been eliminated. Even if you really believe that was the reason, don't share that with a hiring manager. You'll be viewed as a problem child who doesn't have self awareness and who doesn't take accountability for your actions. You won't even be given the chance to tell your side of the story. Even if you are still talking, the manager won't be listening.

A good spin is to be vague and state that you and the company were not a good fit. Instead of going into any details, switch gears and start explaining why the company you are interviewing with IS a good fit and why you are a good fit for them (this is where you spew the core values and bs you have read on the HR webpage).

The best way to spin a negative is to take control of the interview and change the topic with slight of hand tricks.

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Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York

42 months ago

Bluetea in Texas said: Much easier to lay people off than to fire them.

BOTH being wrongly layoff and being wrongly fired are tough to prove in a court of law.

But, it's easier to prove in court that you were wrongly fired than wrongly laid off.

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Julie Sikes in Littleton, Colorado

22 months ago

Joe Gagill in Monticello, New York said: BOTH being wrongly layoff and being wrongly fired are tough to prove in a court of law .

But, it's easier to prove in court that you were wrongly fired than wrongly laid off.

I was found wrongly fired at an unemployment hearing. I applied for another lateral position and at my interview this morning, I was told I likely wouldn't be hired due to my getting fired. Does this type of court really count?

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Jury 14 in Hartford, Connecticut

22 months ago

Julie Sikes in Littleton, Colorado said: I was found wrongly fired at an unemployment hearing. I applied for another lateral position and at my interview this morning, I was told I likely wouldn't be hired due to my getting fired. Does this type of court really count?

No. You just look like more of a risk now, unfortunately. A cruel reality, but it's what it is. Doesn't mean you won't find another job, though.

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Linda in Detroit, Michigan

22 months ago

Julie Sikes in Littleton, Colorado said: I was found wrongly fired at an unemployment hearing. I applied for another lateral position and at my interview this morning, I was told I likely wouldn't be hired due to my getting fired. Does this type of court really count?

Did you tell them you were fired? It's at a different company, correct? They would have no way of knowing unless you told them. The fact that you were wrongfully terminated, and the unemployment ruled in your favor is really irrelevant.

How much of the story did you tell the prospective employer?

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williemorris in Ukraine

22 months ago

Hm.. Why not just avoid the information about you being fired in your CV? or not just not to tell it if employer asks? )

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Julie Sikes in Littleton, Colorado

22 months ago

Linda in Detroit, Michigan said: Did you tell them you were fired? It's at a different company, correct? They would have no way of knowing unless you told them. The fact that you were wrongfully terminated, and the unemployment ruled in your favor is really irrelevant.

How much of the story did you tell the prospective employer?

They asked if I had been, I just didn't lie. I'm bummed, I was hoping the hearing would help-thank you

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Dia

11 months ago

Unhappilyunemployed in Pennsylvania said: Sadly, I think this is how some small employers handle getting out of laying off someone so they can't collect UC. I have worked for a few small businesses where I saw this play out when they needed to trim some staff. I don't know if this was your case, but being fired for not getting along with a supervisor is not uncommon, but not something you would ever discuss with a new employer.

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I just wanted to say that it's nice to hear that someone else understands exactly what I am going through. I have applied to several jobs and no calls. My boss fired me for work abandonment. I had an impeccable attendance record and was in full communication with supervisor before I left. This is after working sick all week. This employer plays favorites and I was not one of them, and it was obvious. My supervisor was new and clueless and being micromanaged by our boss. Now I feel like I am being punished. Grrr. There are articles online that help guide you through application and interview processes. Wished I had read them prior to applications. Good luck and if you obtain any wisdom, please share.

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beccajamesion in Savannah, Georgia

11 months ago

Yup I've been fired too and most people don't like me..

That's why I never give them references lol.

But yeah I used to get reported by customers on a regular bases for not being "friendly." With them. I hate customers, I hate every manger I ever have, and I do not look forward to working another crappy fast food job but that's where I'm heading that's my life.

And you're employer was a jerk (can't curse on this website bleh.)

You can tell when those people don't like you...we're all adults here but if these people don't like you then you can forget about ever having a darn job.

Its like being in HS or Middle School people have their clqiues and their mean to you and make your life a living heck if they don't like you.

Employers are bullies.

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pebcle in Cleveland, Ohio

11 months ago

Bluetea in Texas said: Much easier to lay people off than to fire them.

If you are in an "at will" employment state, employers have a plantation mentality toward employees. I tried 3 times to get a hearing w/the ODJFS about wrongful dismissal only to have every hearing "postponed" by my previous employer, who was mentally unbalanced & hated me. When he got away w/it, he not only slandered me professionally but also personally. I ONLY got another job because a reference was known to the manager where I applied. My reference told me that it took her an hour & a half to convince someone that I am NOT the person slandered by my previous manager. Couldn't get an application looked @ in any other industry because I had been "fired," & I didn't want to work in my same career due to the circumstances. I was "fired" one week after I tended a two week notice as a professional courtesy. It was a deliberately malicious act. Consider THAT a warning, folks!

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getbackintothegroove in Beaverton, Oregon

11 months ago

I wanted to tell you this:

Even if you are fired this does not prevent getting a job. It is all up to you how you conduct yourself during the interview that tells the future employer that you are a good employee and just happen to get a boss that saw things differently. For instance lets say you were fired from a job that got new bosses every few years, and you got fired for whatever reason excluding intentional and gross misconduct. I would yell the future employer that my last boss and I got along and as time went on he decided to reconstruct the the current procedures and bring new employees on to help form this new project which excluded my position.

Never tell them you and your boss didn't get along, nor tell them or lead them to believe you are angry about it. This only tells the prospective employer that you don't get along with authority figures, and don't do well with change. Instead be re-assuring that you dont mind change and encourage it, you just happen to not fall into the plan for change and are looking to take this opportunity to look for a well balanced job both with team work and the ability to advance up the ladder. You may also decide to say that you are taking this time to explore a new career and this job I applied for and am interviewing for might be the change you are seeking.

If you need help further with wording let me know, god knows I had some difficult things to figure out myself when I took many courses to figure out how to talk about it in a positive way to get a job.

Keri

keriwsl@gmail.com feel free to drop me a line

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