To all male bartenders, please help? (girl that has a crush on a bartender)

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mfl109 in San Diego, California

50 months ago

to show he had no ring on. i began to ask him if he was interested in me and if he could just tell me and if we could talk on the phone and exchange numbers but he said his manager was right over there and that he'd get in trouble. i then did the WALK OF SHAME out of there. haha. it was...sad and sooo disgraceful. i am humiliated,,,, and i need a dear fellow bartender man's advice and honest input on what really happened. sigh :(

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mary in Tampa, Florida

50 months ago

You're 21 now, not 16. GROW UP.

You "solicited" a man who was at work. That is surely not even playing ground. If he had been a patron in the bar, it is assumed you are both there for the same thing.

Probably every single girl that comes in there is attracted to him. Your actions could have gotten that bartender fired. That's the input.

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brandee in Broomfield, Colorado

49 months ago

mfl109.....most bartenders, servers or bar workers will not wear a ring.....whether it is to use to their advantage or not. this could have happened at the book store or the grocery store.

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Male Bartender for 9yrs in Jersey City, New Jersey

47 months ago

Hi-- As a bartender I would say, dont take it the wrong way... just cause he is not wearing a ring does not mean he is not taken or in a serious relationship. There will be times when a female bartender may find a bartender attractive and want to take him home. The best way for bartender not to be rude and still have respect for his significant other is by say "my manager is watching and I am not allowed to do that" ... by bluntly stating that he is in a relationship will turn the customer off and cause the customer to never go back which in turn will still get the bartender in trouble by the manager because its bad for business...especially at a club. He can genuinely be nice to you but dont take it the wrong way if they brush you off with "my manager is watching"

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scooterguy97 in Costa Mesa, California

39 months ago

I've been bartending for 18 years and have always dated women that were cool with the fact that I'm nice to everyone and I flirt for a living. The bartender is ALWAYS the most popular guy in the bar. From your story, sitting on the floor, going behind the bar, being offered water? Not normal behavior for a bar patron. How much did you have to drink that night? Your not the first woman to hit on him and wont be the last. The other bartender pegged it right when he said that lots of us dont wear rings at work. Always best to APPEAR to be available WITHOUT really being available! Makes a difference at the end of the night when you stuff that wad of cash in your pocket. As for tipping...On your first drink drop the bartender a ten spot on your first drink and every drink after that will be made before even YOU know you're ready. You'll have his attention and he'll certainly reciprocate on the generosity. Never tip less than $1.00 per drink but also keep in mind the price of what you're drinking. A tip for good service should never be less than 20%.

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